Verbally hurtful words

LONGISH READ. My boyfriend is a great guy, very sweet. but when he is angry he calls me hurtful words like bitch, dumbass, dumb, spoiled little brat, tells me to fuck off, shut the fuck up and piss off if he does not like what he hears, most of our fights are about either my guy friend whom I have slept with before, both admitted it was a mistake and were great friends after that, he tells me that I am not allowed to talk to him again or see him, meanwhile the female that he slept with multiple times and fell in love with lives with him. He told me once a relationship ended there is no chance of talking or friendship afterwords yet somehow she is an exeption, it hurts me a lot to see her everytime I am at his house, she is a nice person, but everytime i see them talking I get so hurt and remember their past, i asked him multiple times if he could get her to move out and he just said she will move out eventually, I ended up talking to her and her bf (which they have a very broken relationship) to find that she has been spending all her money on herself, her bf is spending money on her and the rest of the money is spent on weed. I tell him how much it hurts me knowing that the female he fell in love with is now living with him, and its not fair that I am forced to see this yet I cannot talk to a good friend anymore because he didnt like my past with him, even though i hate the past they had together I am forced to deal with it. everytime i mention her moving out I am over reacting, I am selfish, spoiled brat, then he gets even more mad, calls me a bitch, tells me to fuck off, that i have serious issues and that I need to grow the fuck up (pardon all my french), is he verbally abusing me, is it normal that I feel this hurt by her living with him and is it normal for him to make me not see my friend anymore. we have been together 5-6Months now. if this is not normal, how do I talk to him about this in a way he will understand ? without him getting super pissed at me, he always thinks he is right and refuses to see my side of things. Any advice helps, insult me if you wish to, Im in the Army, i can handle rude people. Also I told him that he was heartless and cruel one day when he was down talking his friend, he told me to never talk to him like that ever again period, i told him to stop calling me cruel names, he said if your being a bitch ill tell you that you are being a bitch, if your acting like a spoiled brat i will tell you so, of your being a dumbass im going to tell you that you are a dumbass, he tells me what I said to him was far worse than what he calls me and to stop belittling him like that because it hurts. Yet somehow it is okay for him to call me all these names if its true. I work my ass off every day and earn everything I want and he doesent recognize that, he took me to the beach once, that was the only date we had in 6 months we have been together and now im spoiled. When he is normal, he tells me how beautiful I am, how amazing I am, how in love with me he is, talks about our future together with the company he has started, does random sweet things for me, as I do for him, he is normal until he gets mad..Im just at a loss to tell him in a way he will understand how much this hurts me, I am one of those easy to forgive people, let things go, but the more he talks down to me the more hurt i feel when Im with him, I am afraid to tell him what is on my mind anymore in fear it will just lead to another fight. He is 27 and I am 24.