Urge to hurt my girlfriend's cat

Hi everyone. I know my story's title is a little bit harsh and I guess you already got the wrong impression of what kind a person I am, so here is some background info: I'm 20 years old, ambivert, social, kind and animal-loving person. I was lucky to be an owner of two dogs since I was a child and I loved them both, NEVER laid my hands on them. Like I said, I love animals and they seem to love me back; be it dogs, cats, parrots or hamsters. So don't you think I am one of those animal abusers, I despise people who abuse animals. But lately a strange feeling is flowing through me: I have an urge to hurt my girlfriend's female cat. Here's the thing. I started dating this girl about 2 months ago and we really hit it off, it got pretty serious and we are happy. When she told me she has a cat I didn't feel this urge, I like cats and I had never hurt one in my entire life, but after a month into our relationship she told me her cat is anti-social, it fights with other cats and avoids foreign humans. Then I felt a spark of the feeling I'm telling you about. When we talk on phone, her cat is always meowing, crying for attention in the background and it's driving me crazy (I'm not jaleous or something). When my girlfriend told me her cat is terrified of the sound of plastic bags (probably a result of past abuse) it made me want to hurt it even more. I dont know why but when I think about this cat I feel like a volcano is about to errupt inside me and a whole new "me" is taking over. This feeling kinda scares me because in my mind I tend to picture myself hurting the cat and I don't know how I'd act when I'll actually see it, I'm afraid this will screw up our relationship, this girl means alot to me.
Is it normal? what should I do?
Thanks for reading and helping. Jake

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  • Faceless

    Some cats have that effect. Just the mean scratchy ones though. I just want to punt them into a lake or something.

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    • Castle004

      Dude. I have the same problem. I have never killed my girlfriends cat. But I swear everytime I see it. I want to wrap my hands around it. Just ignore it. Cause I'm telling you. If you kill it, you'll regret it. Trust me. You sound like me, animal lover, never had this problem, just the fu***** cat triggers us. Just ignore it.

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  • Antlive647

    Dude I have the same problem. My girls cat pisses me off to. Hes a pussy and is scared of everything and when your sleeping thinks its a good idea to scratch the shit outta ppl. When I see him all I wanna do is bash his fucking head with my fist but the best thing to do is ignore the cat and don't pay it no mind cuz lets be real if you hurt her cat and she finds out you're done

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  • tcarr50

    You should cut it open,play with it's slippery intestines and use it's blood as syrup on your pancakes

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  • howaminotmyself

    Bring over some catnip and a can of tuna and try to bond with the cat.

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  • HSVWHO

    Yeah u r jealous.

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  • Russbuss31

    Ok well I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one with this feeling I don't want to hurt them I just want them out or to shoot em but as an animal lover I'd rather just boot em outside and let em go. My gf and I have been together for 4 months and I recently moved into her place because her living situation is better than my apartment and she has 3 cats one of them is her exes cats and the other two are imbread farm stray rescues I have had cats growing up here n there never had a problem as they were indoor and outdoor cats these cats are indoor only they have to be passing everywhere even tho they do use then litter boxes they get litter everywhere scratch the fuck out of everything this house is destroyed from them they are on the tables the counters walkin through our clean clothes and dishes they puke they scratch at the doors and run around all night making noises and believe me I have this urge to kill em and feel like id have no issue shooting em until after i shot them I know if feel bad about it if I did. She doesn't even really like the cats or what they do but likes them enough to keep em for some reason I have a dog too by the way im a dog person so with that said what do you think I should do? Hard to say much when I just moved into her place but why are you holding on to an exes cat anyway theres a reason he left the fucker and the other two are just worthless

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  • DeadlyFern

    I have a very similar problem. My fiancé has a cat that was abandoned as a kitten and has some issues. Eats until he pukes, several times a day. Hate being picked up or brushed. Moews and walks over people heads at nights. Follows you every time you get up. Scratches up the carpet. Needless to say, he pisses me off and I sometimes get the urge to hurt him. I would never hurt him, I love animals. I grew up with dogs and animals just like me. This cat makes my blood boil though. I don’t think I’m a sociopath, I have emotions and am capable of feeling sympathy, compassion, and regret. After reading all the comments though, I realized that I’m jealous of the damn thing. I have my own issues regarding abandonment and even though my medication helps me a lot, I still feel anger towards this cat. I had my fiancé read your story and explained to him how I felt. He was a little concerned about the hurting part, but I explained further and he understood. Maybe you should talk to your girlfriend about it too, if you haven’t already. She might understand.

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  • NursePractitioner

    This cat hasn't physically hurt you, yet you have "an urge" to hurt it. You need to see a counselor because if you move in with this girl and hate that cat, it will be unpleasant. Best to put best foot forward and embrace the cat if you want the relationship to work.

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  • Spopham0001

    I am in a similar position. My g/f's cat has had an effect on me that is unexplainable. I love animals but since this cat has become sick w/ an ear infection (it's better now) I've had an overwhelming urge to choke slam this thing. I don't do it. This isn't just a thought though. This is a feeling starting in my gut then boiling through my body like extreme anxiety. I can barely speak and often trip on my own words when this feeling posses me.

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  • Oddity187-63

    Jake, I know exactly what you feel. I also grew up with animals and I loved them all. Never have I laid a hand on any of them. But cats,kittens in particular, evoke an aggressive feeling. But it is not just kittens, grown cats as well. With kittens it is because they are so cute I want to squeeze the shit out of them. Literally. With adult cats i'm not so sure what it is. Like the thing with the plastic bag, I would feel the same. When we had puppies in the house, they never roused this feeling. I don't understand why. Most of the time I feel affectionate towards my cat. It is hard to find any information regarding this phenomenon. Mostly people are going to tell you that your a sociopath and destined to be a serial killer. If your anything like me, I can tell you this is not true. I really can't tell you why you feel this way, but I believe this IS a normal feeling.

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    • virgothegod

      i currently feel this way we ( me and my wife)jus got a kitten and i litteraly get a skin crawling fucking hatred feeling towards it i mean i absolutely fucking hate that thing..i would never hurt it beause it would destroy my wife to think id do such a thing..but boy do i want to rip that fucking thing in half..the sounds it makes while im sleep the sqeek when it's picked up...im getting pissed thinking about it..i dont understand this though why do i hate something that really didnt and wouldnt do anything to me

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  • kyanviado

    It's normal to love your own animals but not to hurt pets that belong to someone else. Cats tend to be afraid of thunder and lighting. Frisky of noises which sound similar. Consider the cats feelings which need respect.

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  • lilrebel80

    Haha cats do get kinda annoying. You cold also be jealous cause the cat gets the attention.

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  • TylerDurden91

    Yo, you ARE jealous of the cat. Lol. The cat hasn't done anything to harm you. It NEEDS attention from your girl. Everything you described points to you being jealous (especially since you claim to be an animal lover lol).

    Here's the thing, I have a great respect for human life, yet sometimes PEOPLE GET ANNOYING. I was at a movie theater to see the movie "Paul" with my girlfriend, and these fatasses behind me were talking the whole time! I recently started taking Ritalin, so that wasn't helping me get less angry. I wouldn't have been mad if they had just been whispering, but they were talking like they were in a restaraunt. I WANTED to hurt them very badly, but doesn't mean I did. Don't worry, if the girl means a lot to you, you will have enough self control.

    Btw, despite my response being so critical, I voted that you are normal, because I want to hurt my girlfriend's cat too LOL! However, for me it's because I have horribly uncomfortable allergies to cat fur, the cat poops on the floor from time to time for the fun of it (seriously, it KNOWS how to use the litter box), it does whatever it can to run into her room if the door opens even though it knows it's not supposed to (seriously, if it starts to go in and she or her dad yells at it, it stops with this guilty look and turns around. If I yell it goes in), she doesn't want it, yet has to have it, and did I mention it poops all the time? Again, I have self control, no cat hurting.

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  • darli-mianca

    do not hurt the cat,killing animals is one of the first signs of a serial killer(michael meyers)
    plus im sure the cat doesnt want to be hurt
    maybe she could come to your place so you dont see the cat as much or you both go out more.
    and if that dont work try imagining hurting something else? maybe mosquitos

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  • Wicked999

    meaby becouse the cat dous not like you, you get mad becouse you're so used to that animals like you. and I think you are jealous. since you dont feel this way towards other animals, I think it's normal, meaby becouse you like this girl, and feel like the cat is in the way. I would recomend not to hurt it. that will only hurt your girlfriend.

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  • Dude you are crazy. You hear the cat meow and decide to hurt it. You hear it is afraid of plastic bags and want to hurt it worse. It sounds like you have a cat issue...

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  • saix

    kill yourself, the cat is worth more to society than you ever will be!

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  • MBakke

    I can understand why that attention hungry bitch could piss you off, but you sound like a person who just discovered his inner pedophile.

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  • DefinitelyNotNormal89

    A violent, racist cat and a jealous, in the closet animal abusing boyfriend...I've heard it all.

    It's okay to find something irritating but abusing it is a whole new story. People who abuse animals usually turn into murderers so be very careful there!

    (probably the strangest sentence I have ever wrote) Just see how you feel when you actually see the cat, if you still want to hurt it you'll have to not go round to her house and explain why I'm afraid!

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