Unwanted guilty emotions

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I cheated on my boyfriend and he has forgiven me. I'm glad he did because I realise that mixing with wrong people can mess up relationships and I also realised how much I like him.

However, when we have genral conversations about life and people etc, he always seemms to bring up betrayle and being unloyal which makes me feel guilty and ashamed of myself as I think that hes talking directly about me. I don't blaime him for being mad but it's gone to a point where I can't take it anymore and it's bringing me down to tears.

Is it normal for me to feel so guilty although he said he has forgiven me? Should I tell him how I feel or break up with him, I am hoping he finds someone better than me.

I need real answers!!!

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  • digitalbroken
    14 years ago

    You should absolutely tell him how you feel. You should not continue to have guilt placed upon you for something that is supposedly forgiven.

    What you did is in the past, and he claims to have put it behind him. If he says he has forgiven you but continually brings it up in a way directed at you, then he is at fault now, not you.

    He had every right to break up with you, or hold a grudge for cheating on him, when he found out what you did. He didn't, however, and he chose to forgive and continue the relationship. If he has not done that, then he's lying to himself and to you and it isn't fair that you should have to endure it.

    Ask him if he's really forgiven you, and if so, why he is so fixated on betrayal. Let him know how it makes you feel--if that does not make him change his behavior, then it seems like time for you to seriously evaluate if he is someone you can continue to be with. You both need to be happy.

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  • Powernoend
    15 years ago

    You cheated on him so you have to endure the results.

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  • nothing2
    14 years ago

    yeah you might wanna move on. some people can hold that on you for f-ing ever. then use it to justify all kinds of crap now and later. i mean, you cheated in the first place. depends you know. if you can find somebody else. i mean, i'm not being a jerk or i don't wanna seem that way. but if you can, a fresh start might be the thing.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    He hasn't forgiven you. He is maintaining the relationship to punish you. You made a mistake. But he is being a prick about it, or just can't get over it. Either way, live and learn, but move on.

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  • sunny_wantsome
    12 years ago

    You Deserve That, and post this in FML

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Digitalbroken said it all. ^

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  • technicallyhuman
    13 years ago

    your going to have to tell him what your feeling. thats easier said than done, but think about it, if you don't tell him, how will he know to stop? if he really has forgiven you he will listen and understand.

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  • IveGotBallsOfSteal
    14 years ago

    You're always going to feel guilty, as you should, with him. Dude of course you don't want to feel guilty, but that's what you get for cheating. jeez. Some people...

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