Unsure what to do..

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Not really a is it normal question.. But I have always been quiet and found it hard to talk to people, had very few friends because of it. The other week I met this lad at a pool, and honestly I've never felt so at ease with someone I could talk to him like anything, he seemed shy like me. The week after he said he'd be there again and he wasn't probably because of his work. So I looked for him on Facebook.. And now I don't know whether to message him or not, I don't want to put myself across as weird, I mean I hoped he would have got into contact with me.

What should I do?

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  • Shrunk
    10 years ago | pl

    You should message him :) I don't think it'd be weird if he told you his name

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    Message him please. He may be working like I was when my wife (before internet) called me up after we had met at a wedding and wonderer how I was doing. She said she was coming into town and wondered if you could meet at the "Dairy Queen". (I found out latter that she made a special trip 200 miles out of her way to do this) I said sure. I left early from work and met her as she requested. The rest is history. We have been married several years with two kids that are now through college.
    Good luck!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Well I messaged him, and we spoke great. Then he stopped replying but I could see he'd 'read' the message, so I tried to pick the convo up again a while later and he stopped again. So it's obvious he ain't interested.

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    • Shackleford96
      9 years ago

      Wow, I just wanted to say that's awesome!

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  • misanthropeUK
    10 years ago

    Go ahead and message him. I was always shy like you about boys, but a good friend told me not to be so silly, because otherwise you could regret it forever, plus it could have led to something amazing, plus what's the worse that can happen? All he can do is reject you, which isn't so bad, because then you know where you stand and can move on - he can't chop off your head or something like that, so it won't ever be as bad as you imagine and could instead be really great! He is shy just like you are and is thinking the same thing about not wanting to seem stupid contacting you; maybe he feels he could scare you off. Just drop him a short message saying something like, Hi it was nice to meet you at the pool how are you?

    Best of luck!

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Message him right away. Give him your contact information. Tell him you enjoyed talking with him and really hope to see him again.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He's stopped talking.. I don't want to seem to pushy and put him off :(

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      • green_boogers
        9 years ago

        Just do it. It won't be pushy the first time.

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  • jackieava121206
    9 years ago

    hi i have been like this all my life i meet someone or somebody in them all of the sudden i feel tho they have just left me there by my self but i don't think at the time maybe just maybe they have a job or family they need to see i my self don't really see what is really wrong with adding him or her as a friend on facebook it is great to have you will all ways have somebody to chat with all the time this is the same way i started now ive got over 75 or more friend we chat all the time

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  • dorsal
    10 years ago

    Why don't you step back a little, wait, and let things take their course? Not everything has to be forced into existence. From experience, the best things were things that happened organically rather than were created according to an ideal.

    As an example, you know those magazines that say "build a 936 part model of an aircraft carrier" (or whatever it is your country wants most badly); how come none of them "build a relationship"?

    Perhaps because relationships don't build that way. Don't do anything to force it. Just be around to be part of it if it happens.

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  • Hey-skittle-fucking-bears!!!!!
    10 years ago

    You go get that man girl. Woohoo. Liberation. Make the first move. ; ) xd.

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