Uncontrollable fantasizing about old friend with benefits

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Ive been dating this guy for a little more than 3 years almost 4. and we've been through everything from homelssness, having kids, cheating (me on him), death of a healthy firstborn (SIDS), rape, separation. Lol its ALOT but we're so happy together these days. We own a home and have a baby girl.

But recently, over the last few days.. i've been having urges. DEEP NEEDY urges to .. not necesarily cheat. more like break up temorarily ( lol) so i can fulfill these urges. I had thi friend back before i met him that i messed around with all the time. friend with benefits i guess although we never gave it a name.. And lately he's been in my dreams, behind my eyes while me and my boyfriend are intimate. in my head.

I've tried thinkin of other things but i cant. the sex isnt bad at all or anything. i just have random urges to fuck other people.

I used to be very whorish before i met him and over the years, ive been tryna change and remain faithful but these thoughts make me feel like im cheating and although i hate to hurt him and dont want to at all.. i cant get rid of the thoughts!

is this normal?

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  • oh_hambone
    9 years ago

    Not to be a dick, but it sounds like you still are a 'little whorish'. And you say youve cheated on him before, maybe you have a self control problem. Dont do the dude like that, it always hurts and never goes away. Just break up and be a whore or get over your fantasies and chalk it up as just that, a fantasy.

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  • seakelp
    9 years ago

    Well, it sounds like you have a few things that you need to get together, that being only one of them. Talk to a therapist if you can afford it.

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