Ugh,...latinos!

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Well, I never met my father but I was always told how much he loved me and how much I looked like him. So my whole life I grew up feeling just plain African-American. So when I went into the 9th grade there were many people asking me where I was from(I guess bec. I kinda look mixed) so I would say " my fahter is dominican and my mother is black". Then from there I would leave it to them. So it would always seem that anytime I told them my father was Latino they were excited to see that they would have someone to talk to in spanish. So next they would always ask "do you speak spanish?" Then my heart would drop(but not anymore)and I would feel so ashamed and quietly say "no". Then they would look so disappointed in you. Like you were a liar about your race! I hated that feeling. They would actually look disgusted and let down because they did'nt have a friend to speak to in spanish. After that they pretty much did'nt have any interest in you.So anytime I tell people now that my father was spanish I always say immediately after that I don't speak spanish. Sometimes I want to feel accepted by them but if you don't speak it then your not authentic,why is this???

So,I want to know if it's normal to feel disconnected and ashamed of half of yourself? At any point in your life?

P.S I JUST PUT THAT TITLE TO GET ATTENTION NOT TO OFFEND ANYBODY!! I HAVE NOTHING AGAINST LATINOS!

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    If you suck a good cock, who cares?

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  • OvejaNegra
    13 years ago

    Yeah I know how you feel. Although I do speak spanish I grew up in the states so my accent is a bit off and I have a bad habit of throwing english words in my speech so to some other spanish speaking people I come off as a little bit stuck up even though I don't mean to be. Agh its complicated. But yeah try to learn the language and talk to the latinos at your school they will think its ccool to help you out if you told them your situation instead of just saying I don't speak spanish. There are some hispanics out there who actually deny their first language and say stuff like that to be more "American" and it comes off as rude and weird. Just to let you know.

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago

    Your in America the only language any one should be speaking is American

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    • dappled
      13 years ago

      American isn't a language. And even if it was, have you ever heard of a thing called "freedom of speech"? It doesn't apply to you alone, you know.

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  • MyDarkestHour_x
    14 years ago

    It's not all about fitting in. Yes, it's human nature to want to fit in but you shouldn't hate any part of who you are just because of other people and not fitting in or whatever. Honestly, wouldn't you rather be unique then be exactly like everyone else? Wouldn't you rather be yourself rather then what everyone wants you to be?

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    ok first off i would like to say im a latina girl.never feel ashamed of your roots be proud of where you came from and keep yur head high up even through dark times at times its okay to stand out!!!!keep shini

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    • Loveybabe1213
      14 years ago

      I try to be proud but I guess I just let other people make me feel ashamed. Thank you though.!=)

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  • yuri832
    15 years ago

    spanish is so much fun to learn! (compared to other languages). But its easiest to learn a language when you are absolutely surrounded by it (ie- no English spoken in your environment). If you are old enough you might consider going to the Dominican Republic and checking it out-learning the language. Or another spanish speaking country. Ecuadorian and Bolivian spanish are nice because they don`t speak as quickly as in other spanish speaking countries.
    Anyway- good luck

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  • LittleLady17
    15 years ago

    I am a true mutt, part miq mak (native), part german, newfie and whole bunch more, I have never been ashamed! Some people doubt that I'm so much, because I guess I just look white lol, but I am, and the only regret is that I can't speak german or miq mak, and I don't know too much about either history. Embrace who you are, and BE PROUD!

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  • rooster8
    15 years ago

    Believe me they are not as bad as Asians

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    • crushedrose
      15 years ago

      Hey, hey what the hell is that suppose to mean?
      Latinos are not half as bad as Asians? What do you have against them?

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      • Vsusanmoon
        14 years ago

        Trust me I am korean American and i know how it feels to be excluded because your not completely what your skin tells you what you are. I can't speak Korean well and i am very white. When ever i try to be friends with other more fobish asains i get excluded.
        But it also helps to try to learn about your culture and try to accept who you are. Experience being your culture and learn their langaunge you will be surprised at how accepting people can be when you do learn and attempt it.

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  • memleo13
    15 years ago

    Well first of all, I consider myself a mixed mutt and I was always thought that I was disconnected from one side.. but the problem wasn't me it was the people I let into my life who couldn't accept how unique I am to have two different heritages. Don't be ashamed of who you are, you don't have to speak spanish to consider yourself part hispanic... If you want to do something to feel more connected, the best advise I can give is to learn more about your latino heritage, but you dont have to.. It's up to you.

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    • Loveybabe1213
      15 years ago

      Thanks that is really great advice and idk i thinks it all depends on the people you let in!

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  • thejazzismine
    14 years ago

    Same thing happens to me, my father and mother are hispanic and EVERYONE thinks I'm supposed to know Spanish. Like bloody hell, I grew up in Tennessee and NO I DON'T SPEAK YOUR STUPID SPANISH. Not that I have anything against it, I would really like to learn, but its embarrassing and makes me feel pathetic to say I'm Latina.

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