Trying to look / be someone else?

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Is it normal, that I really want to be someone else?
I've been bullied at for years, my self-esteem and confidence is pretty low, can't even look at eyes of the people. When I see someone handsome, cool looking guy, I start thinking I wish I was him or something like that. I'm a bit overweight because of my depression + eating in previous years. I once thought "When i'll be fit, i'll use clothes like his!" or just generally wanting to wear same clothes, etc. If someone buys something, I'm like "I wish I could buy that aswell like him". Sometimes even "I wish I had personality like his". It even hurts to type this down here but myself, I think I have a problem? I'm a calm, chill, friendly, loyal, a bit social awkward guy and I have many friends. I don't see any weird behaviour from myself while going out or something and I don't think about these things there. I just want to figure this thing out. I'm seriously scared to talk about this to someone IRL. Sorry for my bad english.

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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    Do you have a father figure in your life? Your post gives me the feeling that you kind of have the need for a male rolemodel.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Most of what seems to bother you about yourself is stuff you can change. No need to become someone else, with all their hidden problems and faults.
    Losing weight and possibly putting on muscle is just a matter of desire and hard work. Once you've accomplished that, then the clothes you admire should look good on you.
    Changing your attitude and personality is also only a matter of will and perseverance. I'm sure there is plenty of info on accomplishing that online, as well.
    Good luck.

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  • purplemashies
    9 years ago

    Do yourself a favor and stop comparing yourself to other! You are you and that's it! Don't ever try to be like someone else because trust me that just because someone is good looking on the outside does not mean they don't have issues or insecurities! If you don't like being overweight than try to lose weight! The healthy way don't go trying to starve yourself. That's very dangerous! If its too difficult to lose weight for whatever reason other than being a lazy ass... Then just accept yourself as you are! What you look like on the outside doesn't define what kind of person you are inside! Love yourself first if you want others to love you as well!

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  • Murun
    9 years ago

    We all at some point have our taste in clothing etc influenced by somebody else's.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    If you want to be someone other than yourself then be an improved version of you. Try not to compare your insides to someone else's outsides.

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