Trust, and hurt.

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All my life people abused me, by using me for the abilities I can perform, and how much I loved to help. From family, and friends. But now nobody remembers all the good things I did. Today I have trust issues in making friends, because of this. I don't trust people, and am afraid of being used, and hurt.
Recently, my mother had a stroke. After she was released to go home, and receive home care, my brother took her to his house, leaving her house empty. I have no way of getting to my brother's house, and the one time I did, I felt so unwelcome, it really hurt. Nobody had told me she had been released from the hospital, and I had to search to find her. My brother and sister won't offer to come get me, so I can see my mother before she dies... My brother and sister don't remember that I built my brother's first house, or installed a beautiful fence around my sister's new house, and made many repairs on her cars. They only remember me, when I had drug issues 16 years ago, and can't let it go. I tried for the past 6 yrs, to re-unit with them, but the cold shoulder effect was always there. I thought families stick together. Even after my failed marriage, nobody cared how hurt I was...
Why am I doing all the work to re-unit, with a family that doesn't want me around? (except mom). Is it fair to take my mother to an area I can't get to because I don't have the transportation, when the same care could happen at her paid for, and beautiful house that is empty? How can siblings be so cruel? Why are they like this, and how can I stop hurting?

You should forget them. 3
Learn to trust again. 2
Seek legal advise. 0
Talk to a therapist. 9
Move on without them. 5
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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Pray. God is always listening.

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  • o_0
    10 years ago

    your siblings are maybe too hopeless from you to even care about you and keep contact and a normal relation with you...but they obviously have no right to stop you from meeting your mother.
    but if you really have improved and this situation hurts you then its not bad to make another attempt. Go talk to them ,let them know you want things to get normal, and make them realize that you have changed ... that you probably need them and want the family to be together..

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    Poll Pot.

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    • Rediculus321
      10 years ago

      What is that suppose to mean? Say it like it is or don't bother. This is a hurtful situation that I do not wish for anyone to go through... How would you like your mother to be taken away from you, so you can never see her before she dies, and not know if she is dead?

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  • Rediculus321
    10 years ago

    I have been talking to my doctor, and seeing a therapist. Also my mom's Christian friend is afraid to keep me informed for fear of my brother and sister, but I receive the odd text every two to three months, saying my mother is still alive... God bless her, and God will deal with my siblings, when the time comes. Still really hurt, and lonely...

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