Trouble accepting my appearance...

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I am 20 years old and I don't take well to compliments on my appearance, I can't accept them or I deny them. I have been told, quite recently, and several times that I am; Very pretty, or beautiful, or gorgeous, or cute. And for some reason, I can't believe it when someone says this... When I was younger I wasn't really pretty at all! Between my years in Junior high to High School I was Pretty Damn Ugly. My brother's would make fun of me so would my friends and kids from school. I never attracted any guys at all, and nobody (other than my mom) would say I was Pretty or anything remotely close. And now I have strangers or co-workers telling me I'm gorgeous or Very pretty. I even had a guy look at me and say I was way too cute to be working as a custodian. But what I'm trying to say I suppose is; is it normal for me to shy away from compliments and deny them right away and feel almost in a way uncomfortable when I receive a comment such as, "Wow you are Very Pretty"?

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  • EarlOfJdom
    13 years ago

    If you've been put down for so long it's not surprising that you have trouble dealing with these compliments.
    Perhaps you should ignore it all, both compliments and insults. After all there can be many reasons for people to say such things.
    Smile and say thankyou to compliments.
    Mock any insulters about the level of their maturity and likewise how shallow they are.
    Some people say that to ignore people and rise above them is the way. Personally i say get your own back ;)

    In any case here's a couple common(where im from) saying to get you by:
    Everyone's beautiful in their own way.
    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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  • softball
    13 years ago

    Yeah I think it's totally normal. I do that a lot. You always yourselves worst critic. People tell me that all the time. And people will tell me I'm beautiful or pretty so on. And I always say oh whatever or something like that. I didn't have people really make fun of me as much as u did but I had one guy who had no room to be talkin tell me I was d**m ugly and I said i know and he kept on tellin me and I said I know and he shut up then other people who tell me he's an idiot. So I get what your sayin. Idk what would help but I have that problem too. Good luck tho :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I feel the same way. I never believe it when people say I'm beautiful and sexy. And if you don't like the way you look then of course you won't believe it when people compliment you.

    Try to get confident about how you look and who you are. Once you love yourself you'll feel much better.

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  • Iamagirl
    11 years ago

    I bet you 1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 dollars that you are pretty. Unlike me LOLOLO but its true so it's okay.

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  • rockerxchick313
    13 years ago

    I feel the same way. Only 14 though..

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