Transgendered mother, alcoholic father, 7 kids....help!

19% Normal
14 Comments

Me Mum left our house when I was 16 (I'm 20 now), so since then, I have run the household. My father is an alcoholic and a drug addict and tries to spend most of our welfare check on booze and drugs. I have a part-time job at a daycare center, but it isn't enough to provide for my 6 brothers and sisters. I would have loved to have gone to uni, but there was no way I could have left my family. I am the mum figure in their eyes and I can't let them down...especially when they all have bright futures...really smart kids.

Anyway, recently me mum has decided to pay us a visit, except she isn't exactly a "mum" anymore. The littlest one didn't even recognise her, as she is now a man. I don't even know what to do...she left us because of her gender bender situation, and now she wants to return and raise her kids as the father?

The poor kids basically don't have a father anyway, but this whole gender bender mess might leave them even more confused. Is this even remotely normal? (probably not), so what should I do? Should I let her (him) resume his parenting duty and go to uni, or refuse to let him in at all?

Voting Results
19% Normal
Based on 47 votes (9 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 14 )
  • mybuttholesmellsofshit
    14 years ago

    you should tell that "thing" that was once your mom to go fuck itself cause if this story is really true, those little kids would be fucked up beyond belief if a he-she was raising them.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    PSA - EVERYONE ON THIS WEBSITE: BE CAREFUL OF "BUDTHEWISE" - HE IS A FIRST CLASS CREEP, WOMAN ABUSER, RACIST AND IGNORAMUS ... AND PLEASE DO NOT LISTEN TO ANY OF HIS CRAPPY AND ABUSIVE ADVICE. PLEASE!!!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • k10101010101010101010
      9 years ago

      this post isn't about "budthewise' so take your trollin ass elsewhere where it's more appropriate.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • charli.m
        9 years ago

        Four years ago, idiot. Ever thought there was something going on on site then?

        Also, Ollieo was one of the best users of that time. Or ever.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • la_uva_mojada
          9 years ago

          charli you are the biggest troll

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • charli.m
            9 years ago

            I can't tell iff you're serious or taking the piss...

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    wow Im not even going to try to give advice here, good luck.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • k10101010101010101010
    9 years ago

    why do british folk call their moms 'mums' like when you're young you call her mummy, like a mummy in Egypt or what????

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • leahquestions
    14 years ago

    let your mum in even if she is now a man.. I'm sure it affected yur dad in some way but you must stay to see how things go.. How old is the youngest inyour family-- you will have to start on your own one day and if yur mother/father is willing and does what he says then you can leave.... give it time- it takes a lot for people to be real and maybe your mom should of been born a man but wasn't... if she is a druggie and alcoholic then I would seperate the kids and find other relatives to help with them.... wish you the best

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • xino00
    14 years ago

    go to Uni!

    I'm in the same sort of situation like you.
    I have a part time job and have to pay bills for house because it's so damn expensive. So I can't go uni.

    Go Uni, and escape all these madness. The mom/man can now take care of the kids. Though you can keep contact/communication with the kids instead.

    Though I feel sorry for them.
    Because if you kick the mom/man out and continue to take care of the house n kids. It won't do you any good nor take you anywhere in life!
    You need a full time job, or career. Living part-time job will not do you good.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1
      -
    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      I agree with this.

      You were "parentified" by taking on your mom's responsibilities in caring for her kids and her useless husband.

      Its time for you to back down, be just their sister and let her take whatever responsibility she can with her family.

      Its also time for you to think of and act on your own life. You will do more for your siblings by returning to school & being a successful role model. And with success at school comes success at work & life. That is what you, and your siblings need more than anything.

      Stop being a band-aide on your parents' short comings. You'll just burn out and go no where. (Sound familiar)?

      The kids have survived worse. You have. Show the way forward!

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • abnormalmochi
    14 years ago

    Who the hell walks out and leaves seven children with a welfare-riding drug addict? Figure yourself out on your own fucking time, but don't throw your children under the bus.

    Anyway since she's... er, he's back, it might not be a bad idea to make him pick up some of the responsibility he dumped on you so you can get on with your life. You should go to uni if you can.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1
  • Jen118584
    14 years ago

    I don't see any reason at all to be compassionate about your mother's gender issues. After all, it was her choice to walk out on 7 kids and leave them with a useless father. Regardless of what was going on in her own mind, a real mother would do what she had to do to keep her kids happy, safe, and healthy. Besides, if she left once she can and probably will leave again.

    I know this sounds like a horrible alternative, but what if you contacted social services? I don't know where you live, but surely there is someone who can help you. Your brothers and sisters could be placed in foster care and will have a family that CAN provide for them. I know you're trying, but you just can't do it all, and you have to make a life of your own.

    Anyways, that's the only solution I can offer, but I wish you the best of luck.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1
      -
    • Zonfire80
      2 years ago

      He

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0