Too quiet at school...

I'm quiet at school too except around my friends, its just a matter of getting confortable I have a select few friends I have no problem at all talking to and theres a few girls I wouldnt say a word too its just a matter of getting confortable once you start it will become easy over time just be careful you don't try to join into a conversation with a jerk or set your self up for a arguement.

Whao.. everything you said is exacly like me. For some reason I'm just plain shy. And when other people are talking I want to talk with them too but when I talk to them it feels reaaly Weird and I'm not like myself

I have to assume you are talking about a public school. You really need not be concerned because chances are, you would not like most of those morons anyway. Then you have done them a favor, by saving them the face of not being good enough for you. The public school system is only there to fill the mass populous with indoctrination to help the government (AKA ruling power) achieve its next move. And most of the kids at these ‘schools’ fall for it. ‘REAL’ education is learning through study on your own time. Hands on experience, is what is the real teacher. If you find two friends. Friends that you feel have admirable opinions. Then you did well. Others will come around, eventually, and you will have to send them away. After you realize the story they have been lulled to believe as fact. I did. I had several drinking friends, but only three REAL friends. Sure, I started drinking and other drugs, because I was bored. But now I regret it, a lot. Don’t fall for the boredom. The grass is NOT greener over there. People probably shy away because they feel inferior. And really, they are. I will help you, but you have to ask. I am not stuck up. Head-strong, yes. Stuck-up, no.

You're normal...im in high school and your story is exactly like mine...

Theres been some really good advice here. Its a very normal thing to happen. Alot of people who start off shy can blosom later on in their life.

But, you seem to not be doing very good now. So try showing what you wrote here to your Mom, it sounds like shes very understanding. Also you should try talking to a person and making a friend. Its actually quite easy. Just try saying "Hello" to someone. Chances are they'll respond.

Being talkative is like anyother skill you just need to practice it. Right now your well practiced at being quiet. It'll be a task at first, but after awhile you'll see its just second nature.

Don't allow me to diagnose you because I can't even diagnose a single one of my own many problems but perhaps it's an anxiety. I find myself very quiet withdrawn and depressed around those I can't identify myself with, I'm awkward and quiet to the point I chastise myself before bed at night. Yet I'm a regular social butterfly around those I'm comfortable around to the point I've been suspended many times for being too talkative, much to the shock of the peers who see me in "loser mode."

I was also very quiet in school. In fact I was actually teased because of it and being very shy I never stood up for myself so I just put up with it. 20+ years later and those memories are still with me :(

If you want to change and i mean WANT to change then do something different in your life/school life. You can do it but you have to take baby steps. Do something good that'll make people agknowledge you in a good way. go out for something like a sport or something in the art. i dont know something that your good at. You have to feel good about yourself and not be able to care about what anybody thinks but do what you want to do even if it's weird. if your confident about yourself then you'll make friend. be strong and watch out for yourself

This is really weird. I was the new girl in third grade and I felt very alone, but although I was shy, people approached me and I made over 20 friends the first 2 years 3rd-4th grade. After 4th, my shyness got to me and so I was shy throughout middle/highschool and I was the outcast. I had people talk to me here and there, I had friends, but not too many. I was depressed at night, I cried myself to sleep at times. My friends werent even that close to me so I basically was alone, but after high school, things changed. I opened up and became a better me. I'm sure it's possible for you to just realize that you only live once and you need to get out there. Shyness is awesome because it means you're intelligent and you're always realizing that people are aware of your every move, but in some ways, it's pure stupidity because you force yourself into this chamber of isolation where you don't let anyone see who you really are and that's just really sad. This is completely normal, but you need to show everyone who you really are and I'm sure you're just lovely!

well i am a bit like this i guess not as bad but im silent in lessons and only one teacher doesnt find me weird i only talk when they talk to me first. hope it gets betta for you and you get some friends but if you dont it wont matter cos you have always got your family. xx

Wow, you remind me a lot of myself at your age. I moved to my current town just after grade 3. I found everyone so different, since I was from another province. It was hard for me to adjust, and even in high school, I was still really quiet, shy and depressed. I guess I never really mixed in well with the others. I still have a few issues today, but not nearly like before. I'm not really taht shy now, and I can talk to people. I hope things get better for you too, like if/when you go to college and/or work. I'm sure you will meet nice people and make friends :) Good luck! And you know, there's always this site. I feel I have friends on here, which is awesome.