Too nervous to take my relationship to the next step?

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I've been with my boyfriend for a few months and i want to take it to more of a sexual level, but i'm just so damn nervous haha. He's clearly stated that he wants sexual things from me, but never makes any moves. There's moments nearly everyday where it'd be easy to make an advance (Me sitting/straddling him, making out, etc.) I always want to try and make moves, but the nerves take over last minute. Advice? i guess?

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Don't do anything you don't want to do just to please this guy, or anyone else for that matter.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      it's not a matter of not wanting to, just getting overly nervous. (But great advice)

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Thanks, dear heart! To thine own self be true!

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  • sdrawkcab
    4 years ago

    I think it's normal. First of all, if you don't feel comfortable with doing more sexual stuff with him, maybe you shouldn't. When you do, you don't have to start by having sex you can start by putting your hand on his crotch or putting his hand on your chest and that might be enough to let him know what you want.

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  • momwatcher69
    4 years ago

    My instinct says that he might be a virgin, and simply doesn't know what to do, or when to do it. If he's never made a "first move", he might be 'frozen' at the time when most guys would be "pawing" at you.

    Or he's gay.....?

    Or he's got a physical deformity he's self-conscious about...?

    Or maybe he already had a premature ejaculation, and is embarassed . . . ?

    Talk to the lad, and see 'whats up'. . . (or not "up")

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      yeah he is a virgin so i understand why he'd be unsure of how to make advances.

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      • Pikana
        4 years ago

        Yeah. Reminds me of grade school with my first girlfriend. I never kissed someone before and they thought I wasn't interested in them. I was just hella shy and didn't know what to do.

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  • zarabell
    4 years ago

    just do it.

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