Too much in common; a bad thing?

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Well recently I met this guy at work and he's proven himself to be a really sweet guy. He was a little shy at first but then he began to open up. We've had plenty of laughs and we have a lot in common, but now I fear that we might have TOO much in common. I'd like to date someone with the same interests as I, but I don't want them to like EVERYTHING that I like. I want a relationship with him, but I feel that our similarities will somehow have a negative effect on it. I feel that after a while it would get a little dull, differences would be nice; personally I think that is one of the main ingredients that could spice up things a little. I'm thinking about taking a chance with this but I'm just not completely sure about this.

Guys I need some advice before I decide to make my next move. What do you think I should do?

Oh and is it normal that I fear too many similarities would have a negative effect on a potential relationship?

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Nope completely normal. You also should think about what happens if it doesn't work out, what type of work do you do? Do you have to interact with him daily? It definitely could make working together difficult if you do change your mind and breakup with him.

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    • PrincessEmeraldii
      9 years ago

      Yes I will think about this too hun :-)

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  • EccentricWeird
    9 years ago

    You really must have nothing to worry about if you worry about that shit.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    What have you got to lose in seeing how things go. You really haven't known him long enough to know everything about him, so there may very well be lots of things yet to discover.
    I'd go for it, if I were you.

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    • PrincessEmeraldii
      9 years ago

      I am leaning toward it but I am worried about getting into another relationship that will only go downhill again.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Then be more positive.

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    See where it goes.
    And, it would only get dull if neither one of you ever plans to broaden your experiences and interests...maybe discover some new ones together.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    If you have similar ideas, likes and goals, that's a great thing. Great minds think alike.
    However if you have the same weaknesses(like being lazy, careless or sloppy) it could get interesting.

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  • PieGoblin^^
    9 years ago

    My boyfriend and I have just about everything in common and we haven't had any issues yet, not even so much asan argument or harsh words exchanged. I don't think having everything in common will have a negative effect on your relationship. I think if you and this guy had too much you disagreed on, it would cause some serious issues, especially when it comes to where you stand on important issues regarding your relationship.

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