To want to sleep with the person my ex cheated on me with?

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So basically this guy is a mutual friend of ex and me. And while me and my ex were dating, my ex visited said friend. While he was visiting they ended up sleeping together. I only learned of this near the end of the relationship, and it was the catalyst for our breakup. The thing is that I don't blame the friend because he didn't initiate anything, plus he didn't have any ties in our relationship and isn't to blame for the cheating.

When me and my ex broke up, he was really the only one who would talk to me about it, and he really helped me through it all. Plus before me and my ex started dating I did have a little crush on him. So him being so helpful to me has lead me to becoming sort of attached to him as a really good friend, plus that lingering crush on him has begun to reappear because of what a nice guy he genuinely is.

The thing is though, I ended up showing him some naughty pictures of myself to help move on from my ex. And he responded saying that he really liked them and would love for me to be around his area some time so he can show me how I should be treated. So I really want to take him up offer since we're both single and able, because I believe I deserve some proper attention after the shit storm with my ex. He says we don't have to have sex and he could just show me a good time in his cities bars and clubs, but I really think I should be able to indulge since I haven't been able to be with another man in such a long time.

So what do you guys think? Am I crazy or what?

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Based on 34 votes (16 yes)
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  • shuggy-chan
    8 years ago

    Well sounds like this guys getting what he wants, twice

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  • _Crusades
    8 years ago

    Are you a guy or a girl?

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    • Ciel
      8 years ago

      A guy but does it matter?

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  • iinotnormal
    8 years ago

    And, it is OK to fantasize, just don't act on it!!!

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  • iinotnormal
    8 years ago

    It wasn't necessary to reveal your gay, that was obvious that someone, or all you were based on your story.

    Regardless of sexual orientation, guy or girl, one thing is certain here. DO NOT sleep with this guy. I don't care if you think it wasn't "his fault" or not, if he knew you were in a relationship with your ex, and he slept with him anyway, he is scum not worthy of you.

    Second, be concerned about STD's, not just aides. Promiscuity is rampant, especially in the homosexual world. I think you'd admit to that.

    But, that doesn't mean that EVERYONE who is gay is that way, and, you need not be that way either.

    Work on your self-esteem, try to develop healthy, monogamous relationships whenever possible, and, if you DO just want a "one-nighter", please be sure to use condoms, do not exchange bodily fluids beyond kissing, and even then, mouth herpes is such a turn-off, regardless of orientation.

    Good luck to you!

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  • Annie2000
    8 years ago

    Maybe it would not be unusual in a gay relationship triangle, where there is sexual attraction all around. You did have a crush on him once before, as you said. The things that attracted you to him probably attracted your ex. He could be a natural seducer. But think about it. He knew your ex was with you when he had the affair with him. He is still some at fault. The attraction sounds normal, the subsequent "relationship" with him sounds, um, not normal.

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  • polic_officur
    8 years ago

    And in other news, human eats semen.

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    • Ciel
      8 years ago

      I'm not sure what that's supposed to mean.

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