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My bf always watches porn even when I'm around he sneaks and hides it making me feel really weird,uncomfortable irritated and angry it makes me wanna say its over or withhold sex but it won't matter to him anyway because he can just ya know...jack off.its driving me crazy
Wow. Are you saying that you're mad because you can't manipulate him into behaving in a certain way by withholding sex?
I'm a guy (albeit a gay guy) and I feel for you. Unlike apparently the rest of the world, I do regard watching porn and fantasizing about other people as cheating. I've never had to deal with this, but I suspect it would affect me as viscerally as it seems to be affecting you.
My advice. Don't even play with "withholding sex", that's avoiding the issue and essentially blackmailing him. I suspect I would create strife, bitterness, and resentment, and ultimately more problems than the original one.
It doesn't sound like you have confronted him about this. It sounds like he automatically feels guilty about it (as well he should) but does he even know how strongly you feel? I would advise being direct, and telling him up front that you regard it as cheating and won't tolerate it. If he's understanding and willing to try to stop, give him some slack. Masturbation is addictive, and stopping will probably be hard for him. Be supportive. Give him some chances, even if he slips up (as long as he seems genuinely repentant). As long as he's up for it, couples counseling might be a good idea. I think couples counseling is great even for couples who don't think they have problems, but in your case it sounds like you could use an impartial party to work through some things.
If he is not willing to work with you, you'll have to think about the relative importance of your relationship with him, his respect for you, and your continued happiness. Honestly, I think that watching porn while in a committed relationship is cheating, and if my partner wasn't willing to stop for me I would break up with them, no questions asked. But I recognize that not everyone views relationships the same way as me. If, however, it does indeed bother you so much, I would encourage you to think carefully about your long-term happiness. Will you be happy in a relationship in which you are constantly and unrepentantly being "cheated" upon? If the answer is no, don't be afraid to give him an ultimatum: "me or the porn." And then follow through. If he continues, leave him. Do you really want to be with man who values porn more than you?
If you do end up leaving him, don't worry. Not all men are cads. You'll find someone who values you for who you are, and will hold you as the most important thing in his life.
Haha reading this I realized I sound like a 50-year-old fogey. I'm actually just a 21-year-old guy with an old soul. Hope this helps, hon.
Good luck and God bless