To stay or to go.... husband cheated 2 years ago

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2 Years ago I was 9 months pregnant. At this time my husband who I have 2 other children with left me and had a relationship with someone else within days of leaving while still "having sex with both me and this other girl". While I was in hospital he was gone for hours talking to this girl. He was even on a date with her when I called I was going into labor. 2 years later he has changed many ways being there for the kids and helping me more but the love isn't there. The spark is gone. 2 years later I feel trapped and he won't leave. I have 3 kids and don't know what to do... We've tried counselling, and other things between the 2 of us and I just can't forget or forgive the lies and betrayal. We've been married for almost 8 years. Is it normal to throw it away or keep trying. He's a great friend but not a lover, no spark, and I now often catch myself wondering about having relationships with other guys if they would treat me better and if I would be happy again instead of depressed and down all the time. Is it normal to feel this way... To Stay or Go is the question.

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  • Tenderlovin
    9 years ago

    I think you already know, it sounds like it's time to throw in the towel. I wouldn't have stayed when he was cheating on you but I can understand having children and being married makes things more complicated.

    You have you're whole life ahead of you, your happiness is important. Don't stay with someone that could do that to you. Lying/cheating is not acceptable in a relationship.

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  • fullhouse
    9 years ago

    End things now before you spend another 5-6 years to realise this.

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  • JayPr'zBaddest
    9 years ago

    I think if you have to question yourself if you should stay or go... You should just leave... And if you cant trust him there isnt a relationship.

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    You've dragged it on long enough it seems.

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  • tripw7
    9 years ago

    What are you waiting for. He's a bum. You get rid of bums.

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  • poon_jabber
    9 years ago

    if it were me, i'd be faithful to a lady that can give good bjs.

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  • Treehugger29
    9 years ago

    I think its time to let go. Being a single mom isnt easy, but neither is being in a loveless marriage.

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  • Diver2
    9 years ago

    Were you sucking him off regularly when he was with you?

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  • RissaRoar
    9 years ago

    Leaving would probably be best. If he's a good friend then he can still be a good friend after the divorce. If you're worried about the kids there are ways they can have a fulfilling relationship with the both of you even after separating and they'd be happier if you both are happier. If you want to you could stay married for convenience. Marriage is really more of just a contract dealing with property, finance, and custody. If you want you could talk to him about how you're feeling and maybe come up with a "see other people" agreement. If you both are okay with an open relationship and communicate with each other honestly and openly then you could probably reap the benefits of single life while still enjoying the benefits of marriage.

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  • My02cents
    9 years ago

    Once the trust is gone - it`s gone forever, don`t ask me how i know this.

    Maybe some people can forgive and forget,but i can`t.

    I am HAPPILY divorced now for almost 15 years !

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  • donotmockme
    9 years ago

    You need to let this relationship go.

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