To move or not to move?

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My mom is moving down to Virginia this summer. I have a matter of weeks to make the decision as to whether or not I want to go down to Virginia (currently I live in New Jersey. I'm with my grandparents at the moment. Our houses, my moms and my grandparents are currently about ten minutes away from one another). If I choose to stay here in NJ, I will keep all of my friends, my job, and my potential college.

Let me give some background information. I moved to NJ about eight years ago. I am just now graduating high school, and my mom is choosing to move away. I have lived with her all of my life, so its very depressing to imagine life without her all of the sudden.

Furthermore, if I chose to go to VA, I will remain with the family, but lose my friends, job, and possible college education. Alongside the family, our two dogs actually just recently had puppies - we decided to keep four of the puppies. What is your opinion - to move or not to move?

I advise you move. 5
I advise you stay. 6
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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    If you are super close with your mom , at her house a lot and plan to be at her house often go ahead and move . If you would like a change in scenario / weather and other things .. move . If you won't see her very often and have to find a college out there , don't move . If you are on a scholar ship and that's what you mean by lose out on college ( you can go anywhere typically ) then stay and keep your friends as well as your job :) when you are older and finish school .. then maybe look for a job in VA to be with family / near them .

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  • jethro
    8 years ago

    Why would you lose your college education if you move? You can attend college anywhere in the world that you can get accepted to. Don't bother about friends. They will move away, or get married or something like that. You won't be spending the rest of your life with your friends. Friends come and friends go, but you always have family. And blood is thicker than water. Whatever you choose, it should be your decision not the people from a website. It will be something you have to live with forever.

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  • 213
    8 years ago

    well realy don't move you can always visit VA

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Staying in Jersey would probably be the most logical solution, it's just depressing. It's hard to imagine life without my mother around all the time anymore. I understand that sooner or later this was going to happen, but I didn't want this choice to be forced upon me.

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  • 213
    8 years ago

    don't move .get your education and maybe later get a job transfer .

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I haven't started college yet. The option to apply to a college in VA may not be an option now, but there is next year of course. And perhaps I should have been more clear about my job; it wouldn't be too hard to leave. I work under the table at a local pizzeria. I do like everyone there and I make good money, but it would be rather easy to up and go.

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  • LuxM4G
    8 years ago

    It's really your call to make, we can only use our analytical skills and tell you what's apparently better. My advice is that you stay in NJ. It's tough on your mom but this day had to come eventually and you'll be better off living in your own or with your grandparents.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    How old are you and why is your mother moving?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I'm 18. My mother is moving due to a higher paying job out in D.C. I was given the option to go with them, although its a difficult decision - I figure I may do it because it would be an interesting chapter in life, while at the same time, it may not go as planned, and I may not enjoy it at all.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Stay.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Normally, I'm the first one to say go. I love travel, movement and change, but in your case there just aren't enough pluses in the move column, as I see it.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    I think I would stay. Get a Skype though so you can still see her n' junk.

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