To make someone happy

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I was in a 2 year relationship and my bf constantly wanted to have sex. And the only reason I had sex with him was to make him happy. I never really wanted to have sex. We broke up. Now I'm in another relationship where it's the same thing. I'm not really into having sex. Sex doesn't arouse me. But I only have sex with my bf is to make them happy (altho my new bf doesn't wanna have sex constantly like my ex, I still have sex with him when he does want to). But. It's for their pleasure and not mine. Is this weird? is it normal that I only have sex to keep my bf happy?

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago

    u should only do it if u want to

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  • chimera
    13 years ago

    i don't think you should continue in this way. it's really not healthy. life is way too short to miss out on something wonderful like sex. go to the doctor and go to therapy-- that combination should help you figure out how to get pleasure from sex. it will be better for you and better for your relationship too!

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  • PossiblyHuman
    13 years ago

    It's nice caring but pretty strange to me but i wouldnt trust my opinion too much

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  • inlove89
    13 years ago

    Ur doing it wrong

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    It's not weird to want to keep your bf happy, that's absolutely normal. All women want to make sure their men are happy.

    What's not normal is that you don't have a sex drive. That could be a hormonal imbalance and you should get it checked out.

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  • RandomPervert1
    13 years ago

    yer a chick yo, yer kind are all PMSing bitches (no offense) ur SUPPOSED to say no, and be like i dont want to, and if u cant accept that, screw off

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  • heartbrokenbutterfly
    13 years ago

    ask yourself why you dont want to do it. thats very selfless, but you should think about why you are not interested.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    quit doing that shit. its not going to make either of you happy.

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  • littlemunkee
    13 years ago

    i did this for a long time as well.. i found with a lot of guys maybe they wernt supost to be anything more then friends... but thats what they wanted so it led to it.

    not only did none of thes guys really fit me. but the sex was ALL rong. you are probably very kinky.. and need to start opining up your mined to stuff you might have thought should be totaly out of the question.

    (SORRY ABOUT THE SPELLING,.. IM DYSLEXIC AND JUST REALLY DON'T HAVE THE ENERGY TO SPELL CHECK RIGHT NOW)

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    • FMradio
      13 years ago

      Microsoft word--it makes wonders!

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  • chocolatepigs
    13 years ago

    you should want to please yourself not them

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  • FMradio
    13 years ago

    There is no way that someone can't feel aroused when thinking of sex, not even a little. That means that a) your BF is really small or silly
    or b) there something wrong about your vulva

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  • ukegirl555
    13 years ago

    I used to do this with my ex as well. I used to just "lay there and take it".

    then one day we were having a fight and I was so mad I slammed the door on his hand, his finger was bleeding a bit, and suddenly I was so turned on I couldn't help myself. I jumped the man. Now, my dominatixisum is not normal. But I know now that pain arouses me and I can work that to my advantage.

    The point is that everyone has their quirks, try doing odd role playing, buy some toys, maybe do it in a strangely public place... what ever it takes to give you a thrill. Once you know what that thrill is you wont need it as often as you think and you'll be able to return to safety of your bedroom

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    • deepthought33
      13 years ago

      Something about you post is inspiring and awesome. I don't mean to judge you but what I imagined from what you said is that you COULD have continued not enjoying sex for the rest of your life. You COULD have forever been viewed as a boring partner, but you found your niche...your sexual muse. It probably made you a completely different lover. I think it is awesome!

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  • devilan04
    13 years ago

    im a girl too!! in true love we could feel a kind of happiness and during and after love making,will feel that u are in heaven but since u r not interested better u keep ur self away from them and decline.what u gain by making other to be happy?

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  • Mechastar
    13 years ago

    Not weird at all. Especially if you are in love. My cousin had a girl for that long and dumped her because she cheated on him (not sex). And she started offering up her virginity to him if he took her back. It just means you really like these guys and you probably want them to stay. But if you don't like it, you should tell em that... Besides Masturbation is the BEST ^^

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  • ruralfrights
    13 years ago

    Something underlying here. At times, those of us in relationships have sex when we otherwise wouldn't because out partner wants it. But to dislike it ad a whole. Hmmmmm. Somethings up there. Suggestions anyone?

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  • Ra1l
    13 years ago

    Is this my GF? lol.
    Learn how to please yourself first, then show your BF what turns you on and how to please you.
    There really is nothing worse for a man's ego then not having fun in the sack. You will loose him to someone that knows how to have fun.

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