To love but able to walk away easily

I function like this: If I know that a relationship is doomed due to the other persons lack of putting enough effort in it, I can walk away. About a year ago I broke up with my ex that I had been with for 4,5 years because he didn't show improvements at all and refused to put effort in our relationship. Yet it was NOT easy and I felt horrible for some days once it was done but since I knew that it was the right decision it worked. This said, I think that you don't love the person that you are with because walking away is the easy part. It's what comes after that makes you wish to return until you have gotten rid of those feelings. Maybe you should break up with him if you don't feel that committed to him? It seems unfair to occupy his time if the feelings are not mutual.

If this is the only relationship you've had that makes you feel this way, then perhaps you do not truly love him. If it's been this way with all your relationships, then that is just the way you are.
I didn't get the sense you live together, do you?
There are no set rules for relationships; each must fit both party's needs. Would it be a problem for him if you had more time alone? I've known a lot of couples who spend a good portion of the year apart (mostly because his work takes him away for 3 or 4 months at a time), but very much enjoy the time they do have together. A lot of military couples live this way, too.

If you love him why would you want to cut him out of your life?

You're clearly cold hearted and evil.

I haven't read any comments to avoid being influenced. I think that your way of loving is the healthiest way to love, that is, to love and stay detached. You are a wise person.

Thank you for offer of sex. You welcome. I look much forward to come in you cuntry of amireca where you leave husband for me.

Love,
Hamid.

You clearly have no attachments to him. To a Buddhist, that is seen as a good thing; to a psychologist, maladjustment.

Yes, i.eat.rainbows, I think this is pretty much how I am. We are just a type of person that modern psychology prefers to call problematic! And really, it doesn't mean you can't love by a long shot. In fact, my very dilemma is precisely because I love the man! If I didn't, I wouldn't care enough to think it through from all angles.

Thankyou very much for your wise and experienced thoughts here.

Me love cookie and me can't leave cookie. Me lost me cookie once and me go crazy!!! What if someone step on me cookie?

I can relate to you. I have always been a "loner," I am happiest and most productive when I have substantial amounts of time to myself. I am in a great loving committed relationship but I know that if the ship were to sink, I'd be fine. That's not to say I'd be over him instantly, or feel nothing. I'd need time and there would be tears but I'd be fine. I wouldn't feel the need to jump back into a relationship, I wouldn't call or text him, it'd be over and I'd manage just fine. I suppose it comes from bad experiences in the past that have made me stronger and more confident in my own abilities and my mental control, my understanding of my emotions and life experiences, it's a strength, not a weakness. Understanding that you are the closest thing to forever that you'll ever have, It's not cold or wrong like others are saying. It means that you are strong, that's all.