To indian women

I am a 24 year old Indian woman. I have dated black, white, hispanic and Indian guys. I am reaching out to other Indian women. I live in NYC and have noticed a high indian male/caucasian woman relationship population. I'd like to know if other Indian women have noticed this and how do they feel. Is it just? We come from a culture that clearly upholds light skin. White women have long been a standard of beauty. I don't really care about why white society or even the media thinks...but I find it especially hurtful when an Indian man (especially one successful / handsome) clearly has a preference for a white woman of all women. I don't see many Indian guys with black/hispanic/asian women as much as with white women in NYC? Are such guys just prejudice? Are they open-minded? How come they only date white women when they are not with an Indian girl? I can't help but feel there is a portion on Indian male society that openly finds white skin superior to brown skinned women. And I don't think it's okay. Does anyone else feel this way.

I've been hit on by many attractive white men, but you don't see me ruling indian men out or finding them inferior.

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  • I hate when people are racist. I am a white girl, and I understand that the white people have been stupid almost through all of history, but I think it shouldn't matter who you love. Skin tones and gender don't matter. You love who you love :)

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  • kricket

    I think it is human nature to be attracted to different nationalities as this will ensure a healthier species. I read that somewhere.

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  • indianguyusa

    Haha what a hypocrite! You date white men but feel slighted when Indian men do the same? Why? Because you clearly feel inferior to these white women- because you dont and will never possess the skin color and features that they have- and since Indian men have the luxury of being able to date them, you feel really insecure. Get over yourself! White women are much better looking that Indian women anyway! How many Aishwarya Rai's do you guys have? 10? She is touted as most beautiful because she is the closest to a white women anyway- IRONIC. Guess what? A blonde Scandinavian woman is a million times more attractive than any Rai or any Indian woman for that matter. Deal with it. I dont find the vast majority of Indian women attractive- and the ones I do- are sell outs and stuck up with a huge ego. NOT attractive. I'd much rather marry a white woman ANYDAY. And I will. A blonde one.

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    • scandinavia

      I am blonde Scandinavian :P Haha

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  • puppyface

    I live in South Africa and I know what you mean. Only here its worse. You will NEVER see an Indian guy with a black women. But often you will see an Indian man and white woman. Moreover, fair skinned Indian girls are preferred to dark skinned girls. I am open minded and I would date any race. Our men just need to stop being obsessed with color because we females got over it!

    Btw, do you also get peeved when you hear other Indians say:"She is pretty, only dark..." ? They do that here all the time...nothing gets to me more!

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  • jake4000

    I'm white and frankly find Indian women hot! Date a white guy and let it go.

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  • Jen118584

    They probably like white girls because white girls aren't obsessed so with their own culture. And you are insinuating that they are closed-minded?

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  • qzack96

    Im a desi guy from NYC. I agree with you sooo much. I wish there was a way to contact you.

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  • objectiveobserver

    I am an indian man. I will be honest. i hate indian women. i have never dated one, and wil never date one. they are angry, jealous, and rather unattractive.

    maybe you will never find love, and that is your fault, not mine. maybe change your attitude....

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old

    Maybe it's because white women think Indian men are attractive.

    I'm sure their are plenty of white men that find Indian women attractive too.

    It's unfortunate that you feel slighted by interracial relationships.

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  • randomjelly

    I think these men you speak of are a lot more open minded than you. Perhaps race isn't an issue for them when it comes to love. It should actually be the furthest thing from ones mind...

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  • kennmaestasisafag

    Where do you live again? I have never seen an Indian men with white woman where I live. I have seen successful, wealthy east asian males with caucasian spouses/girlfriends but I have yet to see mass number of Indian male - white female couples as you described. Do you live in a fantasy land?

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  • sakwa

    Indians are quite shallow. All women except Asians prefer black guys to Indian guys, that is a fact yet indian men and women like to pretend black people are below them. I despise Indians, am black.

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  • Hog

    The darker the person the more they tend to smell in my life experience. I am an Asian male and prefer white women over all races because I find that they don't smell as bad as the other darker women I have been with. Just my 2 cents worth. I'm not just talking about the pusswa, their breath, hair, body odor the whole package seems to smell better then darker women. Black women to me project the foulest odor of all.

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  • Pinksparkles89

    Indian men are good in bed I will marry a North indian man!

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  • Lonely2

    Women, by and large , are more socially conscious creatures...they struggle with the norms of society more, they want to please their parents, their family, their culture,........they are more dependent

    Men strive for independence and do not care as much what parents, family, sociiety, say.....

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  • kingofthetropics

    right back at you.

    i'm a light-skinned, mixed white/asian man.
    i am handsome and confident, and i'm very much attracted to indian women.
    however, from my experience, indian women are very very hard to get. indian women may be attracted to white hollywood actors or models on the surface, and even talk about how we are so attractive - but at the end of the day, the ABSOLUTE MAJORITY seem to end up marrying indian men, even in places where the choice of indian men are very limited.

    it's quite upsetting, and near offensive how even the "western" indian women can't see beyond their cultural restrictions.

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  • Desi_Shinobi

    I'm a Desi guy and this is reason why I don't tend to go for Desi girls. Skin colour and ethnicity shouldn't even matter but its closed minded people like you who put Desi guys off in the first place, there are nice ones out there who don't care but its rare round my way.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    I'm a White man who is exclusively attracted to desi or Arab girls and that doesn't mean I have an inferiority complex or anything. It's just attraction.

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  • Meownessez

    well I am an Indian girl dating a white guy whom I have fallen for. But I did date an indian guy and that relationship lasted 2 months and the worst two months of my life! I felt compared to the other pretty indian girls since he was a cheater and flirt. That was my experience but I wasn't allowed to date so I decided to try it out. After the first one I found I wasn't attracted to any guy until I met my bf, something about his free spirited nature stood out to me. As for Indian guys leave it alone, let them date whomever they please, just care about you and what you see in a person that you are with.

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  • firefly88

    Quit obsessing about skin color. There are just more white woman out there to choose from
    Than there r indian

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  • LuffySp

    I think you're being closed minded. You have dated around but feel slighted when Indian men do? Love is without color or gender. Just love eachother.

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  • Gfrigo

    ^ that

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