To have this relationship dynamic

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You usually see a type of relationship like (calm guy, chatty girl)

My relationship however is like (chatty guy, calm girl).

First, my fiance loves to talk and be social (this virus situation is making him go crazy). Hell, he talks through shows and movies. It gets so bad that I constantly have to tell him to be quiet.

Me on the other hand, I'm mostly reserved. I could stay quiet for the most of the day if I had that option. That's not to say I'm all quiet, no talk. In fact I like person to person, or small group interactions.

With that being said, my fiance calls me like 13 times in a whole day. I only pick up maybe 3-4 of them either because I'm busy, or just don't feel like talking.

Is this a common dynamic?

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  • jupitergirl
    3 years ago

    Lol this is me and my boyfriend, except yours sounds way more chatty. I might go crazy from that. I even have to tell my bf to calm down. Calling you that much sounds kinda clingy. I can do high energy, but I can’t do clingy.

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    I've always been the calm, quiet one in the relationship and i'm a woman. I'm not much for conversation, I often go out with guys who are chatty though. I've never met anyone who calls 13 times a day though... I hate talking on the phone so i'd take great offense to it if my partner did that plus it sounds extremely odd and clingy. He can't possibly have any reason for calling you that often.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    3 years ago

    This was normal until you said he calls you 13 times every day, why does he feel the need to do this?

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    • LOLFanProductions
      3 years ago

      I'm not sure really....

      Although he is quite clingy

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      • SkullsNRoses
        3 years ago

        I’d ask him about it and (nicely) explain that it’s a bit much.

        Introvert/extrovert relationships often work though if you can be understanding of eachother.

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  • KholatKhult
    3 years ago

    Hahaha this reminds me of my relationship with my fiancée, she’s the much more reserved and quiet type while I’m the obnoxious one.

    When I worked far away she would call me and just say “I don’t have anything to say but I assumed you’d want to talk about things” and I would just ramble for hours. I wasn’t allowed to talk as a kid so now I never shut the hell up

    As long as you’re comfortable with your level of speaking and he’s comfortable with his level of being heard everything should be smooth. Earlier in dating I would feel insecure or that I was talking too much and being annoying, but my fiancée would reassure me that she loved to listen so things work beautifully between us

    I feel that extrovert+introvert relationships work extremely well, but both people have to be open and secure in their level of speaking

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