To have sex or to not?

I'm a 19 year old guy. I enjoy hanging out with girls. I like to stay single, it gives me peace of mind. But lately, the girls I've been hanging out with have told me that they want to be "closer" and want to be friends with benefits. (There are 3 separate girls that have told me this in different ways) I'm not gay, I just have respect for them as people and I don't want to use them. Also, I wouldn't want to do it with more than one, because that would be unfair/scummy.

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Comments ( 28 )
  • Shackleford96

    I think that it's okay to do things with them (friends with benefits), so long as they are aware that you are not mutually exclusive and she is not the only one that you are seeing.

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  • Sidekickz

    gangbang em al the way

    serieusly don't if you'll ask them it i'll ruin your friendship

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    • JustinBiebsFan#1

      i was with you till the last line

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  • Darkoil

    I personally would try and have sex with all 3 of them if I didn't particularly like one more than the others.

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    • JustinBiebsFan#1

      hellz ya, high five

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  • omg12

    Am a girl and i would consider myself kinda slutty so if u were the guy am asking to be friends with benefits i wouldnt mind sharing u as lobg as i knee that i am sharing u. But it depends wether they r slutty or not, anyway if u r a virgin and u r 19and u r having the oportunity 2 not be then fo ahead and do it at least wit 1

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    • JustinBiebsFan#1

      wow this is why women should stay in the kitchen

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    • tbiM20

      Honey perhaps you need to focus less on the sex life and more on the spelling and grammar lessons.

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  • fromthatshow

    Live a little.

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  • 3timesbiggerthenu

    I don't no I haven't been with a girl in 4 yrs or a guy in 2 yrs I just like to stay alone you live longer no one to tell you your late. Or to tell you where you been I come home alone and I take everything off and sit down naked I love to jurk off a lot and go to bed alone no one to wake you up when they get up I sleep until I get up

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  • NothingxCrazy

    You only live once. If you want to have fun, have fun. If you want to just be friends and you think you'll get the most out of the relationship that way, then don't go any further. No one online can tell you what is right or wrong to do. Most people see this post and probably think you're either crazy for asking if you should do it, or they think you'd be a bit of a manwhore if you DID do it. So really, it's all on you.

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  • AL_Ranger

    The only way you can be fair to everyone, including yourself, is to just stay friends if you want to stay single. FWB has the danger of losing them altogether in the long run. Just wait until you find a girl you are sure you want to be with.

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  • boogie592

    Kudos to u bro lol. . . Your last line I gotta throw a flag out because it isn't necessarily unfair to them. They just want a good humping with no long term commitements. That's what friend with benefits means in a nutshell. Even if you don't want to have sex with them, you're still respecting them.

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  • Robertlawence22

    See this is where it is real tough being a male .This is the best advice that you can carry threw your whole life.you got a heart just for even talking about it and not acting on it.So here it is your mom (or father) raised a pretty good kid they tought you about what's right and wrong. So you need to follow your heart and not potentionally ruin it for these young lady's .what usually will happen is they will fall for you because at that age well,we were all gullible and you always got to remember the bad things you put out do come back sooner or sooner so think of it like this if your mom has money hanging out her purse and you take it.It feels good,but we all know that's a real bad good feeling.well thanks for listening and just remember when you get advise from people you know the good from the bad so don't hurt any one and most likely no one will hurt you.

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  • sugarbunnykat

    Casual per-marital sex isn't something to cheer about. It's better to wait for that right person.

    If they want to casually sleep with you who else do they do this with and what else may they have picked up?

    Also nothing ruins the life partly like an unexpected/unwanted baby

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    • JustinBiebsFan#1

      protection and variety, you dont just have water all your life, you have to try different drinks

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  • buntaboss25k

    see if you can get them all to fuck you at the same time.

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    • JustinBiebsFan#1

      they are probably trannies

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  • Infxmous

    Someone said that fwb dont turn into meaningful relationships, from expericence thats not true. Me and my boyfriend starte out as fwb and weve been dating for two years now and plan to get married. The thing is, it worked out that way for us because deep down both of us were looking for a relationship so having sex was just our way to bond more. I have a feeling that some of those girls want a relationship too because to be honest no girl would initiate somethin like that unless she was interested in you. You on the other hand dont sound like youre looking for a relationship, and therein lies the problem. You might be thinking its all for fun and a good time, but in the end youre just going to end up hurting these girls when they realize you cant give them ehat they need. On top of that you would just look like a selfish prick, especially if you had something going with all 3 girls at once. Imagine they all liked you and then found out about each other. They could completely shame you (even make something up bevause girls are vindictive like that) and make you look like a jackass and then since karma is a bitch, what if you found a girl you actually cared about but she wasnt interested in you because she heard of your womanizing ways? Youre treading dangerous waters here. My advice is either to find new friends or to make it clear to your friends that youre not interested in that. If you make up some bs answer about how you dont want to hurt them etc, they will keep puhing because theyre going to think theres still a chance youll change your mind. And by the way, theres nothing more sexy and desirable that something you know you cant have.

    Best of luck to you...!

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  • blaster

    Sounds like they know the deal and just want the benefits, pick one and enjoy , chicks can be just as self serving as guys when it comes to sex - but make sure she's not in love with ya first but then hey that's just me .

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  • TheLion

    Try them out. Stick with one.

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  • sexgod2000

    if u can't choose we all understand we have all been there hang out eith them wll by themselves and the 1 u like the most go out with

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  • You'll be with one, the rest will fall out with you, etc, etc. Stay friends with them. Seek out a relationship "you" want, not one you feel forced in to. If you want them to stay friends, then keep them as friends. You're not obligated to go in to arelationship with any of them just because they want more. If friendship works for you, then keep it as a friendship.

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  • iEatZombies_

    If you can't choose between the three, you may not have strong enough feelings for any of them. So just stay friends. It's better that way. If they decide to stop being friends over it, they were probably just using you in the first place. Also, jerk off before you hang out with them so you're thinking with a clear uhh head.

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  • joybird

    FWBs don't normally turn into true meaningful relationships for the men involved so why spoil perfectly good friendships? If they are sluts you may want some new friends, or your reputation may go down with theirs - just a thought.

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    • Saycheese

      Agree!

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    • They aren't slutty. But for their sake and mine I think it would be better to strike up something exclusive with someone else entirely. So yeah, I would agree with you.

      Thanks for the input

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      • tbiM20

        If you don't feel comfortable, then dont. As your friends they will respect that - and probably grow more because of your decision.

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