To give my girlfriend space?

Tell her to get off the birth control pill. I swear that shit fucks up women's hormones and mental stability. I became calmer and more rational after I got off it after being on it for ten years. And ten years of destroyed relationships etc. If she's not on it and that crazy then leave asap

Tell her how much she means to you and that you are willing to wait or support her if that is what she wants. But also tell her that because she chose to be in a relationship, it is not fair to make you wait an unreasonable time. You are both adults and it will not be a healthy relationship if you try to control her or neglect her.

I hope you too can work it out. I don't think leaving your house is the answer here. I think you should sit her down and have a talk about this with her. I know you want to help her and of course save your relationship especially after so many years. I've read your second post in the comment section I feel all the more like she's the problem. She should sort herself out. And not take it out on you. You don't need this. I can tell you are a loving boyfriend. Any girl would love an man that would care half as much as you did. Let alone as much as you do! Don't let it get you down.

My advice. (it might not be the best). Act as if your nose bleeds. Go to work/school, come back home. Kiss your girl, act like any other day. If somethings bothering her she should come out and say it. Not let you fish for answers. Just continue your day to day live. If there's anything you need you can send me a message.

If all else fails talk with her. Sit her down and say your things. And give her time to say hers.

I hope you to work it out! Let me know how things unfold. And if there's anymore support you need.

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it's not that complicated okay ... you need to know what your feelings for her really are and if you love her .. then go tell her what you realy feel you know things like " you're my everything and a week without having you every morning waking me up or a night without having you near to me would be the worst week i can ever have ....." trust me if she loves you she will have her tears runing of telling you she would never leave you ... sweet words alwayse works with girls if they are surely from the bottom of your heart we just live once don't let love pass away

Same thing here buddy, It's a very tough situation. I don't know... all girls seem to do that... I sometimes can talk her out of it but, other times she just wont let me. She's my first girlfriend and I'm pretty sure she'll be my only girlfriend(because I love her so much<3). But, she's been in a couple of relationships before she met me and has "issues", with love and emotions and yadayada. She's bipolar which makes things worse...or unipolar, I don't know anymore but either way it's torturous.

thanks everyone for responding. there's been an interesting turn of events.

i had drafted a text in which i suggest this "week off" to her, but i still wasn't sure if i felt like sending it. then over the last few days my phone developed a mind of it's own (erasing texts, sending to wrong people, etc), and sent the message to her anyways, without my knowledge.

so we discussed it, and she says there's no need for that, and if she were to come to an "unhappy conclusion" it would be more along the lines of a short break than a full separation. but she hasn't sorted out her feelings yet.

so i'm back at square one. sigh.
guess the most important thing is how i handle the inevitable. so i'll try to remain calm and accepting. but i won't lie, this is pretty torturous.

You sound like an awesome boyfriend! It's a pretty tough call about giving her some space. Talk openly about the idea and see what she thinks. Also is she talking to a profesional? She sounds like she might benefit from either a therapist or psychiatrist. If she's at all smart she'll realize she has someone who cares alot about her, supports her and is so understanding. Those are some really amazing qualities to have in your partner and she'd be foolish to let you go!

^This. Because she may find out that you aren't what she wants anymore.

She sounds like a headcase though.

I think you should ask her if giving her a week of 'freedom' would be helpful to her. It might not be a bad idea but be ready in case she decides she wants to end the relationship.

wELL I THINK THERE IS ALOT OF ALMOST NORMAL WOMEN OUT THERE IF SHE NOT MAKING YOU HAPPY GET OUT OF IT ITS BEST TO HURT NOW THAN LATER IT WILL JUST MAKE YOU SUFFER