To feel embarrassed about doing things you're biologically programmed to?

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I feel embarrassed for being attracted to the things that science says my gender typically finds attractive. And for wanting children. I also feel embarrassed about having feelings, and requiring a certain amount of socialization.

I feel embarrassed about having human needs because I think it makes me feel basic, and like I'm not able to overcome biological predispositions. It puts me out of control of myself.

It reminds me that everything we do in life is to survive and procreate. I hate it.

Does anyone else feel this? Is it normal?

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  • B_E_Z_sweetie
    6 years ago

    I think thik feeling is normal in a westernized world because it prizes independence so much and people are praised for "not needing" other people, going against the grain, being fully independent.

    I just remind myself that I'm human, and we're meant to live together which is why I feel these "programmed biological" feelings. The truth is that we're interdependent. Studies show that a good social circle improves health and longevity. Then I override the guilt or shame for having to be vulnerable in a world that doesn't prize vulnerability. I put myself in a position to fulfill at least some of those feelings.

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  • Shackleford96
    6 years ago

    You are thinking about that shit WAY too hard. Calm down, get back to reality. What good will it do you?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Do you think it's an anxiety thing? I am diagnosed with GAD so I wouldn't be surprised. If it is an anxiety thing then good luck getting me to calm down and stop thinking about it hahaha. What a life that would be.

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      • Ellenna
        6 years ago

        If you've been diagnosed with a specific condition what treatment are you having for it?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Well I was in therapy where we had a three month treatment plan, and I was on Zoloft and Prozac one after another because the first wasn't working for almost a year. Then when therapy wasn't working I said fuck it and dropped the meds and the therapy. I don't think it can be cured, and I'm the only one that I think can help myself. When I was in therapy that's where I got diagnosed. She seemed really confused as to whether it was GAD or Social Anxiety Disorder. She went with GAD.

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          • Ellenna
            6 years ago

            Therapy can be helpful without knowing which label is relevant. Can you have another go at it with another therapist?

            I don't know if it's curable and maybe you can help yourself, but it won't just go away by itself. How do you help yourself with it?

            Cognitive Behavior Therapy might be helpful but I don't know enough about the condition to be sure of that.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              This will sound pretentious and stupid but I truly believe that I already know everything that can be done for me and that works for me. I wont go back to therapy because no new information will be presented to me.

              I decided honestly to just tough it the hell out. There isn't anything you can do but your best. I just have to keep pushing my limits and pushing my confidence barriers.

              This is what has been working while therapy did nothing. I even liked my therapist, which almost never happens. She was very smart and insightful. She had that light of consciousness.

              Thank you for your point of view on the subject, it's appreciated.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Sounds more like shame than embarrassment to me.

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  • Dustyair
    6 years ago

    Religion invokes shame on people as well.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    I can understand how you may have come to that conclusion bubsy but somehow I'm really only worried about what I think of me. Like I'm embarrassed because of what I think of myself. I am my audience. It's really hard to describe so I'll probably just stop. It's just that it's so not about other people. Wish I could articulate this.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    Embarrassment comes from shame. You are letting the purple-haired, multi-chinned feminists shame you so that you can be as miserable as they are.

    "Knowing who you are" is the first step of having a happy and fulfilling life. "Accepting who you are" is step number two.

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