To fall in love with a lesbian and not be able to get over it

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I fell in love with a girl 3 years ago she started off as a stranger and eventually I became her best friend. I have talked to her non stop for that period basically. She drops hints constantly but claims to be a lesbian. She also says she loves me when I asked about going out her reasons for not jumping on the offer were 1# distance 2# and male genitals were weird but if I had boobs she would be all over me. Honestly I think she is Bi but I don't really know what to do she seems to be closer to giving me a date every we time she talks. Last time I asked she said she felt bad cause she knew I would do anything for her, and that she does love me. She would make my life complete and I would do anything to be with her I just don't know what to do sometimes. Three years have got me from person she barely wanted to talk to, to the first person she tells anything. I have been maintaining relationships on and off while still being her friend I just know where my heart is.

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  • lovesicknoob
    11 years ago

    Just as an update I was right about being her being BI we are now happily in a relationship and she was the one to ask me out. Took another year but I would not have it any other way she is my heart and I will love her till I die. For those of you who may wonder why it took her so long her explanation goes something like this. I thought I had figured my sexuality out in middle school, I was afraid of being judged by all my friends for having a boyfriend and basically being shunned by all her lesbian friends. She said she decided she would rather take the heat that risk losing me forever she told me that night she could not see a future without me in her life. After four years I can safely say I have found someone who loves me and I could easily spend the rest of my life with. I know this is not the average ending to most of these stories but at least I get one happy ending after 22 years bumpy roads ^_^

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  • noodle76
    12 years ago

    I smell a romantic comedy!

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    " Last time I asked she said she felt bad cause she knew I would do anything for her, and that she does love me."

    If she's feeling bad about you telling her how much you want her. Um yeah, that's code for "I love you like a brother". Meaning she cares deeply about you but doesn't want you in bed.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I once fell in love with a gay male friend. It took me a very long time to accept the fact that it just wasn't meant to be.

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  • TerryVie
    12 years ago

    i choose "give up" because that was the only answer with a "give up" in there.
    basically you already answered your own questions.

    as angel said, it's more likely she loves you as a brother, besides, read your first two sentences again and then think about the term "friend-zoned". even if she WAS no lesbian, your chances are close to nil.
    If anything would happen, i'd most likely be a mercy thing or a drunken thing, which would only cause more long-term problems.

    Honestly, i think you are afraid of the very real possibility that after being focused on her for several years, you stand to realize the "efforts" where in vain.
    Ask yourself if just being friends is enough for you, if so, accept that and stop aiming for more. If you CAN'T accept that, you may as well "come clean" and have a honest talk with her about your motivations. If you are afraid about what her reaction to that would be, then you already knew the answer to the question you asked in your heart.

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