To choose a long distance relationship

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My boyfriend has been my friend for 6 years, and we have been together for almost 5 months. However, he's leaving for overseas for his studies in about 5 months time, and there is a time difference between us of about 8 hours when he leaves.

No one wants to end things, i think i can cope with a long distance relationship but he has been having doubts as his family thinks otherwise.

What do you guys think i should do?

Additional comments will be much appreciated :)

Set a deadline for him to make a choice 8
Don't take up a long distance relationship, it never works out 3
Just break up with him now, it makes separation easier when he leaves 6
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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    At least try it. There's no point giving up without trying :)

    Also, tell him he should tell his family to mind their own business.

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    • fivecoloursinherhair
      11 years ago

      Thank you dom180, i laughed at your comment about his family. But i understand where he's coming from as family does play an important role.

      Thank you for your support!

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  • alv1592
    11 years ago

    I definitely think distance can work if both people put effort into it, especially since y'all were together before the distance.

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    • fivecoloursinherhair
      11 years ago

      Thank you Alc1592 for your advice! so would you think being together before the distance would be an advantage point? why so?

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  • GreyWulfen
    11 years ago

    If you really love him, then you won't give up the relationship. It's simple as that.
    Love knows no "deadline" or something like that.

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    • fivecoloursinherhair
      11 years ago

      Thank you for your advice. I just feel that I need to end things fast if we can't work things out, so it would be less painful for both of us. Hence the deadline :(

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  • mixwell
    11 years ago

    It is likely to not work out, I was with my ex for 7 years and moved from California to Arkansas and she broke up with me 2 weeks later. It's very hard to have a LDR but I say go for it and see how it turns out.

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    • fivecoloursinherhair
      11 years ago

      thanks mixwell for your honesty, can i ask if you guys were doing LDR or were you guys together for 7 years in the same location?

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