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As a young adult I've had a few mild sexual encounters with women and decided I didn't want to do that anymore. I've been married for 7 years to a very sexy man, but have always thought of being with women sexually. I have never, and will never cheat on my husband. Is it normal to have these desires towards women?
Ok, so far, I have been good. I haven't been with anyone other than my husband. But man, oh, man, have I been thinking of it. Or should I say woman, oh, woman? It is getting harder and harder to not give in.
The foundation of any successful relationship is trust. If you trust your husband, then tell him about your feelings. If he is worthy of your confidence, then he will understand and help you work through it, which could include anything from giving you permission to have sex with your gay girlfriend to having a 3some with another woman.
If my wife came to me with this, my focus would be on making her happy. So, I would ask her what she wanted to do about it, and then help her make it happen.
It is if you are gay or bi-sexual. I think you are bi-sexual and it will be hard for you because you will probably always be attracted to women. If you share these feelings with your husband he might like the idea of seeing you with another female, but I be cautious because things like that have been known from time and time again to destroy a marriage.
My first few sexual experiences were with girls when I was a young teen. I don't regret anything. Most of it was just experimenting. Or flirting. I am approached by both men and women a lot and I try to be nice to everyone.
Whatever floats your boat. What you do or choose to do does not effect me. xxx
Is abnormal..n I nvr try before..act quite interest to hv a try..wonder to know how guys feel when hold gals' bust..shld be fun is it.?I wan to try this act..but shy..
honey, is that you? you should have come and talk to me about it before I found out through the Internet.
well ... you're bi ... :) but here's the thing .. if your husband doesn't know about it and you think about it frequently you should try talking to him about it .. and see wha thapppens .. and well .. if you dont' want ot share her wit him .. becuase i know that destroys a relatlisnihp .. then youd on't have to .. but it's nice ot have him know that .. maybe he'll understand
So you are probably bi - does that change how you feel about fidelity in your marriage? Doesn't sound like it.
I think you will need to be firm in deciding again that you don't want that especially with your lesbian friend if she makes any further advances. If you did something with her I think you would feel you've betrayed your husband & marriage.
And really, what is the difference between and extramarital affair with either gender? It is about betrayal & broken trust either way. Don't in your deepest imaginings think that because it is same sex, it is not cheating.
Also - back to the bedroom - are there things your husband can do that you would like from a woman? Sounds like you've got a good thing going there.
It's completely normal. I think you're just bi sexual and there is nothing wrong with that.
Thanks for the suggestions. I don't want my husband to see me be intimate with a woman or anyone, and I certainly wouldn't want to share him with another woman. A very close friend of mine is gay and has come on to me before. I turned her down and she understood why, but I think if she ever did it again it would be hard to say no. I just don't want to hurt my husband.