To be turned off by my step-sons relationship with mother?

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I have a girlfriend I really love but her relationship with her 2 year old son is something I find for lack of better words taboo. When I first met the little guy he was a handful and it's only gotten worse. He bites, hits, blatantly doesn't listen and throws the worst tantrums. I know he's only 2 but I have a daughter almost the same age and she's never exhibited any behavior of the sorts. For instance I left for a bit to take out the trash and when I came back in he smiled at me grabbed my phone and tried to hurry to the kitchen sink where his mom was doing dishes to try to put it in there... He's busted my daughters nose to no reason, throws tantrums anywhere we go, his mom bribes him with candy especially when he's at his worst and hasn't done anything to deserve it which in my mind could escalate the issues. All our fights are about our kids because she seems to think I don't discipline my daughter enough when the matter of 5he fact is it's the other way around. She's overprotective, I feel like her little bundle of joy could be bullying another kid and as soon as something is said about it she flies off the handle, I feel like he could murder someone for no reason and she'd somehow find a way to blame the victim. I don't know what to do. Do I leave? I really love this woman but I could see this becoming a huge issue.

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  • CDmale4fem
    6 years ago

    If the mom cannot see the way she baby's her baby, with a huge lack of discipline IMHO that is about just as bad of abuse to not discipline than to spank to much or the beatings some kids end up with. If she waits much longer to implement a disciplinary guides then when the kid is older he will run the houehold. I have a nephew whose mom was very protective no matter what he did. She would run down and slap $5000 in hand of attorney to keep "her baby" safe. Even if she knows or knew he was in the wrong with whatever actions he did to warrant the police getting a warrant to search. Down the road she honest to God, she WILL REGRET not having disciplined him a lot more to teach him structure and there are consequences for our actions..

    I have to agree,that if you cannot talk to her and tell her your concerns and why you would like to help her without destroying the bond that you all have with each other. He'll get on computer and Google things like "how my child should interact with others at this age"(whatever his age is)"

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    • rayb12
      6 years ago

      Not to mention this kid will not respect her at all. Once he hits puberty he will resent her and may eventually cut off contact all together. This type of parenting if you could call it that is not being a mother, it is selfish, lazy, and she honestly sounds clueless. However all mothers are at first, but most learn to have consistent enforced rules.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    You're normal to be turned off by the bad behavior, and lack of discipline. If it doesn't change you may have to leave her. Your daughter's safety and your sanity are more important than this romantic relationship.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      6 years ago

      I agree- he sounds like as he grows up he could potentially be abusive, I would keep a VERY close eye on him when they're together.

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  • Kevinevan
    6 years ago

    Well first off it isn't your step son if she is your girlfriend. You should stop saying that otherwise you'll be paying child support for the monster in the near future. Ay least in my state you would anyway.

    Dump this chick. She is bad news.

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