To be in love with your career?

--If you are happy when working and you think that the day you will die, you will be proud of what you accomplished, it is OK.
--If you work in order to avoid some personnal feelings or responsability, it is not OK

Its always a good thing to work in a career that you love. Just don't take it too extreme.

It sounds as though you retreated into your work to find satisfaction after a break up. Now, you have created an artificial relationship with your job in order to replace the lost love in your personal life.

Learn balance. Think of it this way: If you died today, what would your co-workers and boss say? Your boss would say "He was a great worker, a real good guy who worked very hard. By the way Tom, when are we getting his replacement? And they will get your replacement, and you will be forgotten within 2 weeks, maybe shorter. Bo bull. I have seen it happen.

What your current girlfriend is telling you is that she wants to spend more time with you. Her actions also say that she wants to go deeper into the relationship. Does someone have to hit you in the back of the head with a 2x4 to get it?

You also state that you are in a competitive work environment and that only the hard workers get advancement. Listen, NO JOB is worth giving up your personal life. They will only suck every fiber of your being for their profit. Don't be stupid.

I used to work 80+ hours a week. I will NEVER do that again! So my friend, I speak from experience. Since I adjusted my life, it has made a remarkable difference.

Sir, take it from me; develop your personal life as well. You will never regret doing so. When you are lying on your death be, which do you think you will be thinking about:

1. How dedicated to your job you were.
2. Who you love, who loves you, and how many lives have you been able to influence in a positive way.

Only you can decide the answer.

Good Luck!

We don't know about your relationship dynamics , so it's hard to give advice...There's is nothing wrong with being dedicated to your job as long as it isn't a coping mechanism for insecurity in your relationship w/ her. Think about it....you probably already know the answer to this question. Good luck in your career and love life.

You don't have to work 80+ hours a week to be successful in your career. And that the issue may be that you put work ahead of your personal relationships, which is sometimes necessary but not the best idea 100% of the time. You gotta strike a balance between your professional and personal life, and while it's possible that your gf is crazy and needy she could also have a point behind her objections.

Just hazarding a guess, but maybe you're afraid that you might invest too much in your relationships and get burned, whereas you know that the more you invest in your career, the more successful you'll be. You should probably learn to love your relationship as well as your job, and if shit goes bad just man up and deal with it.

Wow that's awesome! :)

It's amazing that you are so satisfied with your career! Lucky you because so many people want to put a bullet in their heads because of their careers.

Your girlfriend should grow up a bit if she wants to keep a gem like you, or move on. There are a lot of women out there that like a hard-working man!

No I don't think your a workaholic, I mean the girl should be happy that you have a job and not lazy. It's just her

you're probably gay, go find a man with patience