Tired mind

I know it's long but please read it. I really need the help.

More often than not when I'm trying to sleep I start to get all these awful thoughts in my head. They are sort of like dreams, but I'm not asleep yet?

Sometimes I play an entire fictional argument in great detail in my head. Sometimes I picture waking up and seeing someone I don't recognize standing over me. Most recently, I involuntarily ran a full scenario about my girlfriend cheating on me, and blaming myself for it. I'm not even in a relationship!

When I get these thoughts I can't sleep; I just lie awake in bed with my eyes closed thinking for hours on end. Sometimes I'll get up and go on the computer or something. Why not? I'm going to be awake for a while anyway....

Please, I need help. I haven't gotten any proper sleep in a few weeks and it's starting to affect me. Is there anyone else out there who can help, or perhaps has had a similar experience?

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  • Ellenna

    Normal, but not healthy. I used to do this a lot and still do very occasionally if I'm exceptionally stressed, to the extent that I'd actually be angry with someone for something they'd said or done in my imaginary scenario.

    You need to replace these thoughts with something positive: what finally worked for me is what I call "The Gratitude Game" where I say out loud (I live alone), addressed to no-one or nothing specific, a long list of Thank You's - eg, for the roof over my head, the comfortable bed, food in the cupboard, clean water to drink, my dog, friends, family, nature, that I don't live in fear of being bombed or blown up every day ....... it's amazing how many good things there are around us even when we don't think we have much.

    Another trick which works for me when I'm having trouble getting to sleep is imagining I've won a big lottery prize, every detail from how I get the news, how I tell other people and exactly what I'd spend the money on in great detail: what make & model of motor vehicle, the colour, where I'd go to buy it and so on.

    You also need to stay off all screens for at least an hour before you go to bed and never have them in the bedroom with you, they change our brain patterns in a way which isn't conducive to healthy sleep.

    I hope some of that helps and you can change this pattern before it's really entrenched

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    • Freedom_

      Hmm...the gratitude game... If this ever becomes a problem for me I will try that Jimmy Fallon style...

      Thank you, roof over my head, for catching all the bird poop..

      Thank you, family, for keeping me in check and reminding me that I'm not immune to crazy.

      Thank you, clean water to drink, for being transparent. I can always see right through you... And even though you live underground and run through my house, you never leave muddy footprints.

      Thank you, nature, for being nurture's adversary.

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      • Ellenna

        Do you feel better now?

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        • Freedom_

          I do, actually. Thanks:)

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          • Ellenna

            That's really really sad

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            • Freedom_

              Why is it sad that humor makes me feel better?

              Sorry if I made you feel like I was devaluing your advice. That wasn't my intention.

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  • Chillbanana

    Use it to write a book or a poem its a good tool man which i lost far beyond past the time.

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  • noid

    You can buy melatonin. You have to be in bed in the dark for it to help though. Not continuing to be active in a lighted room.

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  • Glad to know I'm not entirely crazy. Will try these things. Thank you!

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  • Short4Words

    To add to the list. Make your sleeping as much as a routine as you possibly can. Don't look at your phone or any screen an hour before bed. Maybe settle in with a book and glass of tea or water or maybe just some soothing music and then sleep at roughly the same time every night. Best sleep I ever got at home was doing those things. It also helps to make your bed in the morning.

    Good luck

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  • Freedom_

    My mind does something similar when I'm sleep deprived, but it sounds more like your thoughts are causing you lack of sleep and you're stuck in this vicious cycle. I like what Ellena said about changing your thoughts to positive things. Also, make sure you go to bed at about the same time every night.

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  • jr__

    Sometimes If I can't sleep I think what I'll do the next day. If it's boring I'm soon asleep.

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