Tips on self-lurve (female & wheelchair user)

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I loved it when my friend rubbed me down there over my clothes. I haven't had much experience of being on either side. I had to stop her mid-way through as I was dying for the toilet. Her touch felt wonderful; like velvet swirling around down there. I must admit that other things she did & said weren't so great, so much so I never want to see/hear from her ever again.

I can't work out whether the velvet feeling was my bladder filling up, me needing to go, , me fancying said friend. But now all I want is someone to do that again, & the thought it won't happen makes me cry. I can't reach! My arms are too frigging short & my wrists & hands can't rotate.

I do role play, sometimes sexy stuff, sometimes not, & I found a gif for it with a woman holding her stomach & rubbing herself down there, with a look of sheer joy & relief on her face. Any more ideas for me to pleasure myself without actually pleasuring myself??

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  • Azaman
    7 years ago

    I wish I had advice for you, alas I have none. But have to say this post really intrigues me, not so much in a weird way.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    Perhaps the velvety feeling (what a lovely expression, by the way!) was either orgasm or the build up to it? It's common for women to feel as if they need to urinate at some points in sexual arousal, especially just before orgasm

    I know people with disabilities often find it's hard to meet their sexual needs without help from someone else: do you have a carer or trusted friend who could get you to an adult sex shop? Or maybe this is a better idea: check out the LoveHoney website - I've bought a few sex toys from them, they have a huge range and are quite reasonably priced.

    I'm thinking one of those huge fantasy dildoes, a vibrating one, but be careful not to "numb out" with the vibration.

    I reckon you'd find the Australian doco "Scarlet Road" really interesting - it's free to watch on youtube and although it's about sex workers and men with disabilities I think you might find the general approach reassuring.

    I did a disability care course some years back and the issue of the sexual needs of men with disabilities was mentioned and the fact that some carers arrange to take clients to sex workers who are ok with disabilities and know how to deal with any difficulties. My questions about gay men with disabilities and lesbian or straight women with disabilities and their sexual needs weren't really answered - funny that.

    If you're interested in seeing a strong, gutsy, funny and very sexy woman with severe disabilities, check out the late Stella Young's stuff on the net, in particular her Ted Talk.

    Good luck and would love to hear how you get on

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    • ClaireM
      7 years ago

      when i think of all the stuff that came with it i put the offspring's 'self esteem' song on really loud. i'm thinking loud music might help – i knew there was a reason why i loved sitting as nr to speakers at concerts as i could!!

      just because being referred to as a spastic is true it doesn't make it any less rude. as for issues in said docu i'm not sure what side i'm on,/if indeed i happen to be on any side, & i'm not sure she did either -- that experience was certainly a lot easier – physically anyway. me begging for a rpt probably made her cross, she might've regretted & wished it never happened. i wish i did. often i feel it'd be better if it hadn't as it felt so good; she must've known what she was doing. she'd never kept a f'ship/r'ship going before

      (un)fortunately i now live in a care home. 1 of the inmates
      constantly does this in public. there's also risk of staff coming in & knowing what i'm doing/trying to do/my parents coming to visit @ exactly the wrong time. i don't think they'd be too comfortable with taking me to a sex shop, although some yrs back i did get stuck in one, between the massage oil & briefs that went “grrr!” when you pressed the crotch. i only went in there in protest at fellow students' behaviour, truly believing i'd have no use for its goods.

      a huge fantasy thingie?? but i'm so small!! it'd kill me!! & of course i'd have to do its voice:

      “you are in my power now, lil mortal! foolish human! let me fill you with my baleful sparkly light.... creeping up your stunted, useless form. up your hateful legs that do not work. circle your portal. that's it. now lie back & let the magick happen”

      oh hang on, you don't mean that sort of fantasy do you, ellenna?? since i got it wrong i could find one of these velvet dresses, with sleeves that have to be tied on. or maybe a pouch for make up, essentials etc. hanging on/nr belly means when i patted it i'd get instant nice feeling.

      found stella young. will look for docu later, sounds interesting, will fulfill my “aussie fetish” too.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        To me, there's a difference between calling some one "a spastic" and saying they have spasticity: people with disabilities usually prefer that term to "disabled", which makes them seem all about their disability and nothing else.... how do you personally feel about those differences in terminology?

        I think it's crap that you have no privacy from carers or your parents or other residents in your own room, assuming you do have your own room? So because you have a disability you're not entitled to privacy? That stinks.

        And no no I didn't mean INSERT a huge dildo, I just meant you'd be able to hold it so that the other end did what you want it to do ........ Oh, I just remembered, you can get vibrators with remote controls!!!! You could just turn it off if someone intruded .... check out LoveHoney on the internet, I'm sure they sell them ..... Hope you have privacy for your snail mail or someone will get a surprise!

        I love the mental picture of the growling panties, I've never spotted them in the sex shop, but will check it out next time I'm in the neighbourhood.

        Oooh, you have an Aussie fetish, that's VERY interesting!

        Am I wrong, or did I pick up that you haven't always had the disability that's put you in a wheelchair and residential care? That must be so much harder than being born with a disability. I'm not being intrusive, you don't have to explain if you don't feel like it. Whatever happened certainly doesn't seem to have affected your intelligence or writing ability!

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        • ClaireM
          7 years ago

          see private messages Ellenna!!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    3rd party pleasurers?

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  • Nitti
    7 years ago

    You need to find a way to stimulate yourself down there! I'm not entirely sure how. That feeling you're describing was definitely sexual pleasure. It might be embarrassing, but I think you should talk to someone about it. Everyone deserves orgasms.

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  • ajayllg
    7 years ago

    would you be opposed to cocaine and a escort?

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