Threatening to withhold sex in a relationship is grounds for being dumped

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In my opinion, threatening to withhold sex in a relationship is a form of manipulative controlling behaviour and if my girlfriend ever started to do that I would dump her. It's the same as a guy threatening to not go out for meals and stuff, unless the girl did something he wanted. It's also really annoying how it's shown as a funny scenario on sitcoms when really it is very disrespectful and can hurt the relationship. Sex is supposed to be something that's mutually enjoyed by both partners, so for one of them to openly admit that they only have sex for the other person's benefit and that they could take it or leave it, is very hurtful and demeaning. Sex is also supposed to be a loving thing that bonds the two partners closer together, so for one of them to use it as blackmail or as a threat is very distasteful. I know I would end up resenting the person who tried to do that to me, I'd probably end up not wanting to have sex with her or be around her at all. The relationship would've turned into a system of reluctantly bartering favours for sex. I couldn't respect her for basically whoring herself out like that, and I couldn't respect myself either for remaining in that 'relationship'. What do you think?

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    I can see the point of doing it in certain situations.
    Like if you've hurt your partner and refuse to apologize and own up to your mistake, then naturally they wouldn't want to have sex with you. That's not blackmail, it's just common sense. I wouldn't feel very eager to sleep with someone who had hurt me by some of their actions.
    That's why communication is important, and being able to take responsibility and admit when you're wrong.

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  • Clunk42
    4 years ago

    I agree unless the two partners in the relationship agree to be temporarily celibate.

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Relationship or marriage? Usually yes, it is. But if your married and both 40 years old with 8 kids it shouldn't be an instant divorce.

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    • Clunk42
      4 years ago

      Man, that would be a lot of kids for 40.

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        How so? It's a lot of kids in general.

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        • Clunk42
          4 years ago

          That wife would have spent 6 over her 40 years of life pregnant. That's 15% of her whole life pregnant. That's 6 of her twelve years of adulthood spent pregnant. That's 50% of her adulthood spent pregnant.

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          • d0esnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            When you say it like that it sounds like a lot. But to me it's not probably because I've been around some loaded families.

            My Aunt and uncle have been married 7 years and have 6 kids! There was a family at my church with 14 and another family with 12!

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