This was my punishment

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I don't even remember what I did but I wants like illegal or anything. My parents took everything out of my room. The only thin left was a mattress, blanket, two changes of clothes, one pair of shoes, and some charges for basketball. No makeup or anything else. I even got my door taken off. Everyday I got something back if I was good. Slowly getting bigger. Is this a normal punishment or a fair one??

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  • dom180
    11 years ago | pl

    How old were you when this happened?

    What did you do?

    I find it hard to believe you don't remember what you did unless it was a very long time ago or you were very young, but if you genuinely can't then I don't think it was a very effective reprimand. It sounds like an effective way to instil behaviour in someone, but I don't think it would make me very co-operative if my parents tried to take all my things unless I did something serious. I'd probably spend a lot more time out of the house if this happened to me; I don't think it would change my behaviour very much. Then again, I consider myself very resistant to people trying to change my behaviour (even to the point where resistance isn't in my best interests).

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      Yeah, my parents tried to do this to me for getting bad grades and acting out at school. I had a serious discipline problem as a child and this is how my parents punished me.

      At some point, I think I got used to it to where I was used to not having sheets or having much else in my room but the bare basics and I got so used to being grounded that I just became accustomed to never leaving the house.

      I got used to having to be careful to be in any other part of the house but my room, I got used to being yelled at and to being reprimanded for any little offense and I got used to not having a social life because I couldn't leave the house when I wasn't at school. Eventually I became a recluse, for years I did nothing but stay in my room and read or sleep.

      It wasn't until my Junior year that I became comfortable with being out of my house and being out of my room, period. For years, I hardly ever went into the living room or kitchen unless I was cleaning it or trying to eat something. It was strange living with my Aunt and Uncle and not having to ask to get something to eat or to be cautious in any other part of the house but my room and the concept of my being able to just leave the house and go do something I want to do that doesn't involve school or work is still a bit tricky for me.

      I would say that this is an effective form of punishment for major offenses, but using the same punishment over and over again means it probably isn't working and a different approach needs to be taken. However, if she doesn't remember what she did, then I don't see how it could be effective. I can understand her mentality though, sometimes I couldn't remember exactly what I did.

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      • suckonthis9
        11 years ago

        What was done to you is Unethical and most likely illegal.
        A parent or guardian has a responsibility to provide the basics of life and the safety, health and well-being of a child. This will vary, from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. You should have challenged them on legal and Ethical grounds.
        Grounding is Unethical, akin to imprisonment. It depends on where you live. As I had stated previously, a parent or guardian has a responsibility for a child's safety, so they could restrict your movements. They are, however, under no legal or Ethical obligation to provide you with transportation (like to a friends house, store, etc.) unless the transportation is necessary and the community would deem it unsafe for you to be on your own.
        It can often be a difficult question, as to what are the "necessities of life", especially with our growing reliance on technology.
        Being yelled at repeatedly, is verbal abuse, and is Unethical, and in some places illegal.
        Now, a parent or guardian can Ethically and legally deprive a child of things, but they must prove ownership and not deprive a child of the necessities of life. Even if they had purchased the item for you previously , that does not give them ownership.
        To correct a child's behaviour, it has been proven that a reward system is far more effective, than one of punishment.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          11 years ago

          Haha, it sounds nice but I didn't know much about law and ethics when I was under 16.

          Not to mention, my Father was active duty military and a Gulf War vet. I had a lot of teachers question his discipline methods and when he would talk to them, he'd pull out his "I'm in a military and I'm a vet" card and he was automatically promoted to sainthood status, or the closest one could get to it.

          My father was a smooth talking son of a bitch who had everyone convinced that he was a morally sound man, serving his country, with a daughter that had horrible mental and disciplinary problems.

          Everyone in his family believes that he was a great Father and that my horrible, evil bitch of a Mom has and always will stand between him and the kids he loves so much and that me and my horrible insolence is the reason why he won't call me or bother to pay me a visit, although he lives just a state away.

          Douche.

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          • suckonthis9
            11 years ago

            Yes, and this is why we need to teach children about law and Ethics. I was fortunate that my mother was a lawyer, and that I was able to read law books.
            We should have available, good civil attorneys for children who are experiencing problems similar to yours.
            If you know someone in a similar situation, don't go to the police or to the teachers, find a good civil attorney. They will be able to see through the facade.
            When I was an older teenager, and was involved in the babysitter mafia, the babysitters (who were about 13 at the time) had lawyers advising them, free of charge.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Sounds like a effective way to instil discipline and teach you to behave. That takes a lot of effort for them to do. They must really care about you. You're lucky

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      yeah

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Be thankful for what you have.

    A roof over your head.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    Some people sleep on nothing and they are not even being punished.

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  • jucedaguy
    11 years ago

    Depends on what you did, I need more info.

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  • NeonLighterz
    11 years ago

    You probably did something really bad. There's 3 sides to this story. Your side, your parents side, and the truth.

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  • bendyfrendy
    11 years ago

    Its odd i think. If u like failed math its too harsh but if u crashed your car idk. It depends.

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  • nursebetty
    11 years ago

    Wtf? So what's with the post then? If you want attention, go get a dog! You've just wasted the time of all the commenters!

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  • kenz1
    11 years ago

    Ok no I WILL NOT get a lawyer this isn't real I was just thinking it never happened I wanted to know I did get my door taken off but never have I gotten everything taken out of my room so stop Turing it into legal stuff gosh I WILL NOT get a lawyer cause it isn't realy

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    What on earth did you do?! Your parents had to have seen it as a bad thing if they went through all that effort to punish you. I don't think this is normal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    yeah but not always disciplining and teaching someone because it will fuck the someones head up heres you one how could someone teach a drug/pill addict to quit buying them and take that pill money and turn it into bill money how how can this be done with out a program (darthrule) i don't think anybody has any good advice do they nobody can discipline a pill addict they will not listen to me i tell them they waste money on pills instead of paying their bills you can't teach a pill addict new tricks i tried.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    its a fully strong one they did to you
    you better obey and yes do be thankful
    for what you do have a place to stay in

    and that your not living with fucked up
    people/family members like me i would
    feel sorry for you if you where tho

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  • kenz1
    11 years ago

    My parent love me and they didn't do and thing illegal I didn't even get everything back cause some stuff I forgot I have so they just threw it out but this was just little stuff

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  • kenz1
    11 years ago

    I still get feed and had a roof over my head I just had to live on necessities it was like they shoved me in a closet plus I did learn my lesson

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    I dunno, that seems kind of intense. Personally I don't feel that it's fair to take your door, you need to be able to change and they shouldn't invade your privacy to that extent, especially if you're not an only child. :x I wouldn't want my fam just walking around seeing me naked all the time.

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  • NotFloydzie
    11 years ago

    What did you do?

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