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I'm 21 and I've never had a boyfriend or had sex. Infact the thought scares me, I just can't imagine myself doing it like in the movies... Cause that's what guys want isn't it? I've been interested in a couple of men but nothing took off really, I'm happy being single and I'm not really looking, I don't want to look I want it to happen. But the thing that worries me is when, and what if it's a couple of years away and he doesn't like me because I'm inexperienced I lack confidence as it is but saying something like that will knock me further. Another thing, a lot of people have several partners before they find 'the one' so I best get looking! Since I've had none? Or could I just walk out tomorrow I'll meet someone and I'll be with them for the rest of my life? I'm worrying everyday and I don't know how to stop. I'm terrified.

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    You don't have to be experienced or have a bunch of partners, none of that will matter when you meet a good guy and decide you're ready. Don't go rushing to find a guy to lose it to, there's no timeline to when you should find the right guy and lose your virginity.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    If you're a girl it should be fairly easy, especially if you are at least average looking.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    I sort of have similar fears except in my case I'm bi and I stupidly stuck with females instead of males even though I find males way more attractive. I'm in no hurry to find a dude because it's not a priority for me. Maybe I'll run into The One at the park, or online, or dare I say Target. Only time will tell. :)

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  • WielderofZukoroshi
    9 years ago

    I'm 21 and I hadn't done either of those things either. If I do, it might be when I'm much older.

    Don't stress it, OP. Just give it time.

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  • ArayaLioness
    9 years ago

    It's normal but worrying gets you nowhere. I think guys will vocalize about what they want so there's no need to fear.

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    Not all guys want sex, just most. I crave companionship.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches
    9 years ago

    More normal than you think.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    I'm 23 and am sexually experienced and have been in many relationships and it really only just adds confusion to my life sometimes. Now, when I date, I'm a lot more suspect of men due to having had bad relationships and I am less likely to work on a current relationship because I know that I can always find another so I probably ain't gonna die alone.

    Experience isn't always a good thing. In fact, sometimes it just makes me more wary of the intentions of others. There is good and bad to any edge of that dimension.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    The worrying isn't going to help.
    You can go on as you are or you can set yourself on a path that will alleviate your fears, becoming a confident, secure woman.
    Set your sights on a SINGLE older guy, for your first. Someone with experience and patience who will be gentle and caring. He may not be the most beautiful guy in town, but the pretty ones often are more into themselves than their partners anyway.
    Let this older guy teach you to be a good lover. He won't be impatient with you or all wrapped up in his own pleasure. That should take care of your insecurities in the love making department, don't you think?
    Once you are confident in your femininity, you can then seduce a few guys and get some variety, finding out what you like and don't, in the love making department.
    Then, when 'the one/Mr. Right" comes along, you will have the skills and confidence to make him yours and begin a life together.
    Good luck.

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