This is a friend?

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So this dude, a fellow military veteran I met at a VA hospital was lost, totally fucked up, and homeless. What do I do? I guided him to get rental assistance. I spoke to my landlord and got him an apartment in the building where I live. I showed him where to eat when he had no money. I showed him where to get decent clothing at little or no cost. Where to get his hair cut for free. I guided him into a veteran's drug treatment program, the same program that saved my life. I listened to his problems when I had the weight of my own problems on my mind. I was a friend to this dude. As a fellow vet, I felt obligated to do this. You fellow vets out there reading this know what I mean. So I was a few days late in paying the ten bucks I owed him on a android phone that I bought from him. Now he doesn't want to talk to me. At first I thought, he'll get over it and realize all the things I've done for him over the past year. Then I thought, fuck it. And fuck him. Who needs this ingrate! I was a friend to someone who really needed one. And no good deed goes unpunished. Is it normal to think this way? He is clean and sober. Has plenty of food. A decent place of his own to live. How bad could he have needed that ten bucks?

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  • Angelmikeal0
    8 years ago

    thats how humans are.

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  • LuxM4G
    8 years ago

    Just talk it over with him. He's probably drinking, abusing drugs, or going through a depression or psychological stress. He needs your help again, because his judgment is fogged.

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  • dirtybirdy
    8 years ago

    When did this phone come into play? Is he an electronic device salesman now? What happened??

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Perhaps it wasn't about the money. I'm not sure I can phrase this correctly.
    I have never cared if someone couldn't pay back a debt on time, as long as they did communicate with me on time. I didn't even need a reason, just a head's up; "I can't pay you right now, it'll be another week." or something to that effect. Then after that week, at least another head's up, etc. Silence and avoidance will quickly turn a friend into an ex-friend in my book and fuck the money.
    Nothing that went before is of any consequence in something like this. Do you think he owes you anything for your previous help? Did you do it for his continual thanks and reverence? I hope not.

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  • Mario24
    8 years ago

    You did what's right by helping him and you should feel good about it. To understand it fully you need to recall your conversations between him lending you money and you paying him back. there might be other reasons. He lent you money when you needed it. talk about things and sort it out if it's possible. I suggest not jumping to conclusions.

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  • 877
    8 years ago

    It certainly feels like a loss of a friendship. I have had this sort of thing happen to me a few times, just because of a misunderstanding. I have always hated those situations and thought about them a lot, hoping for another chance, but they are sure about it as if their life depends on it! even though they heard half the story, if at all. but when I hear that ''that's how humans are'', I don't know what more to say. what a waste. I have never been like this to someone, only been on the receiving end (misunderstood).

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