This dude confuses me.......help please....is this normal?

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Last year this guy Michael liked me, he was kind of nerdy (honestly a compleeeeeetteeee geek but I thought it was kinda cute) back then.
One time he came up to me while we were playing soccer and he started playing with my hair and we were flirting and whatever lol..... my friend was even teasing me over it. Then I asked this girl (she's kinda popular but whatever that doesn't really matter I guess) about him and she was like ewwww nooooo noo noooooooo! She said he was really weird... so I tried to stop liking him... and I did for a long time!(or so I thought) :(
But this year he's in one of my classes and he sits riiiight across from me! But the thing is, he really changed over the summer... he's cool and his style changed from nerdy collard shirts to laid back hoodies and the occasional collard shirt! Which I love! And I'm seeing him in a whole new light in this class (even though it's just math)....ugh idk lol

But my point is...I truly do feel like a conceited bitch for ditching him the moment someone didn't approve and I really regret it, but I just..ugh...I guess the feelings never went away.

A lot of the time I catch him staring at me or glancing at me in class but I'm such a pussy that I'm too shy to even say hey to him....

please help me, I don't know what to do and
I honestly like him a lot...

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  • CozmoWank
    10 years ago | pl

    Now that he's wearing hoodies I can understand your dilemma.
    Have you considered staying off this site until you turn 18?

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    • valisque
      10 years ago

      Sigh... Just help the girl out already. What would it kill? I mean look what happened the last time she asked for help from an age-mate...

      Besides I doubt she's gonna have some sort of revelation and delete her account just like that 'cause we told her to.

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      • CozmoWank
        10 years ago | pl

        You right.
        To the OP-
        Like most teens, you're shallow and superficial. With age comes the realization that what you now think of as problems are not problems at all. Hoodies and collared shirts are not deal breakers when it comes to choosing a life partner. Invite him over afterschool for coochie and milk. (I'm sorry, I mean cookies and milk.)
        Happy now Valisque?

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        • Mazlow
          10 years ago

          I... Don't think that's what he had in mind...

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        • valisque
          10 years ago

          -_-

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  • ThisIsImpossible
    10 years ago

    Fuck the schoolwork, smoke some weed and steal your parents car. Smoke some weed in the stolen car. Let everyone know he fucked you, that should bring you down in popularity and him up, making the both of you land about even. And then live happily ever after some coke.

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    • Freedom_
      10 years ago

      The kids are shooting vodka in their eyes and assholes these days. Get up with the times, man.

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  • Mazlow
    10 years ago

    Since no one else wanna tell her.

    Note that all those that are saying 'you're too young for this and it doesn't really count for anything so you should focus on more important things' are totally missing the point.

    You learn from stuff like this and your first relationship tend to be one of your biggest life lessons. Those could determine which gender you're attracted to, whether you grow up to be an ass or genuine.

    That being said, you'll wanna let him know you notice him.
    If he catches you looking at him, don't shy away. Smile back, even have a stare down if u will. An occasional hie when you walk past him wouldn't hurt either.

    Thing is I get that you're too shy to actually approach him but in reality, you don't really need to. See girls have it easy. All you need to do, is give him the confidence to come to you.
    Because as it is, I can guarantee you without even knowing him, he's just afraid of rejection.
    Sure he looks better but his insecurity wont just disappear over the holidays.

    If you give him subtle hint he's got a chance, he'll do the rest, and you'll just play along.

    You'll wanna get him while he's still innocent and keep him that way btw. He's a much safer bet that way. Most of the times, its the slick, full hardy, thoroughly experienced ones that do you the most damage.

    Go get your man.

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  • Freedom_
    10 years ago

    Focus on your schoolwork.

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    • valisque
      10 years ago

      Is this very good advice? Yes.
      Will she forget about the guy after reading this and just do her work? Probably not.

      For all we know, she could be getting straight A's.

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      • Freedom_
        10 years ago

        Children need to learn these lessons on their own. When I was a kid I used a more appropriate site called diaryproject, which was full of whiny teenage first world problems.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    The dude doesn't seem the confusing part, you are probably the confusing one to him. First you ignore him, and then you really like him. Since he basically faced your rejection once, I think you owe it to him to put some effort into flirting and perusing him.

    As for the change in wardrobe? People change. They see new things they like, and you see things you like. Do not get too strung up about it. I am not sure if this is the type of answer you were shooting for, buuuut there ya go

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You should go talk to him. Chances are he still likes you. Never turn down someone you like because your friends don't approve (unless there is a good reason such as he is abusive)
    The coolest people don't give a fuck what anyone thinks.

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  • shuggy-chan
    10 years ago

    Try asking him for help on a problem if u need an ice breaker, other then that, figure it out on ur own and do ur work

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  • lister86
    10 years ago

    wen u get older ul find there is no such thing as a cool person ppl jus put others down to make themselves look better if u like the guy give him a chance b4 another girl sees his potential

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    So his shirts are a leafy green?

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    • valisque
      10 years ago

      I also picked that up... She just had to note the shirt. Poor sucker has it bad.

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  • Lonely2
    10 years ago

    Just tell him that you really like his new look and start talking to him

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Ok.... some weird comments but thanks anyways!! And just so you know I have all A's except in that class XD ironic, isn't it?!
    Btw I'm not that shallow! I just felt like I needed to address his significant change in wardrobe! But thanks again anyway.... :)

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