The way he acts when im with him.

Obviously he's still in love with you...or he's a stalker.

.. why are you leading him on?

sounds like he just really, really loves you. as long as he's not doing anything fucked up like trying to tell you who you can/can't hang out with.

He is taking possesion of you and letting it be known that u belong to him.

He has decided to own you, and to not let you go.

You may want to consider whether or not a control issue is going to be a problem, and pay close attention. This is how abusive behavior starts. Smothering you with love, checking up on you.

You sound young, but if you are together over a period of time- a year, 2 or more, he may decide he has the RIGHT to check on you, to hug you whether or not you consent, etc. Be careful of what this turns into...

he's your ex? and your letting him make out and hold you all passionately? if this is true then wtf? that's not normal!, and maybe hes checking your phone to see what those other boys are saying, girls seem to be bad at noticing when some guys are getting fresh and I've noticed this a lot first-hand and ended up being correct in them trying to get fresh or hit on my girl.

Maybe you to don't see eye to eye he loves you!....or needs help,ether way,go for it!....or call the cops.

that sounds like my best guy friend aka my ex-boyfriend..except he doesnt care whether i talk to other guys or not..he just doesnt like me talking about them. hes in love w/ u definitely

He's in love with you! Totally...
and i had no idea guys actually did those sweet things like hugging you even when your mad and holding your hand .. ur one lucky girl. but don't lead him on. either be with him or dont.

wow. So let me get this straight. You wrong the guy, and have a problem with him being willing to forgive you and act as if it never happened. I'm guessing that if he had done the same to you, you'd be slashing his tires and setting fire to his house. His willingness to forgive you is making you feel like a grade A b$%%ch for not being able to do the same (which indicates that you may have a conscience and a desire to not be a grade a b.) Whats really disturbing are the responses to this comment. All the jealous grade A b's who wish they could have a whipping boy too. "Like omg if I had one of those I would totally do this, this and this to him and be like I'm so cool because I treat him like crap and he keeps coming back for more" He may have alterior motives and is checking the cell phone to reaffirm his place (its possible that in his mind youre still together.) Or he could just be a glutton for abuse.

he checks ur phone? does he just wanna be near u lots to make sure he knows what ur doing and who ur with? maybe hes got abandonment issues since he wont just let u go that sounds creepy to me.. but maybe he is a good guy but then i dont understand why u dont just be with him if he likes u that much? if u rly dont like him get him outa ur life and start finding new guys u actually like? sounds good to me...

OMG!!!! Gurl he's sooo in love with you. Sounds like he'll do anything for you, so if you care about him, be with him, but if your gonna play with him like this, dont let him make moves on you, especially if your not ready to make the commitment. the poor guy deserves a straight answer, so give it to him!!!!

I don't like kissing either, no matter how much I like/love the guy and what else we do, kissing always freaks me out. I think it's because I have a phobia of dentists, other people being near my mouth is just weird.

Awww, hun, it's called unconditional love.

But I don't see how it's a problem if you were being treated like that? You guys broke up? Maybe you should just stop seeing and talking to him completely.

And here I was starting to think that women loved to be treated special. Sounds like he loves you (or has abandonment issues). Either way, if you are attracted to him, why not try it? If not, I guess you'll have to try and break it to him gently and if he doesn't take it well, to move on and not guilt trip over him. What will not work, will not work.