The revealing of my secret will destroy my social life

Let's get 'fysical', 'fysical!'

If your social life would be destroyed by the revelation that you never had sex with your girlfriend of 3 years, you need some new friends. In all likelihood, whilst it might be a talking point amongst some gossipers, I doubt very much it'd have the impact you're concerned about.

You worry to much. Tell them you are a "promise keeper" and worship Nancy Reagan!!! Hey - come on - those people are around - they even post on this site! But seriously ...

You might want to talk to your ex-girlfriend and see what she says - then decide on a communication strategy that meets both your needs. It doesn't need to be elaborate or untrue and can meet both of your needs for privacy.

An example of a communication game plan would be that if asked the response is "that is a private matter," and if pressed the most said is "we decided to wait." Beyond that there is nothing to discuss. Stop framing virginity as an embarrassment - to be virgins and teens (or virgins period) is no shame and you are not responsible for other people's smutty assumptions.

Your sex drive is also no one's business. But you should definitely talk to you Doc about your low libido and be more concerned about your health than your gossipy friends.

I understand. There must be a real sense of panic, waiting for your secret to become public knowledge. Although it's been forced upon you somewhat, maybe this is time to "come out" and admit that, at this moment, you don't want sexual relationships. You'll be gossiped about and it may even be a running joke, but I think people will accept it and your social life will be largely unaffected. You may even find you have closer relationships with female friends because they know you're not trying to get into their underwear.

Dude, people are to busy worrying about having sex themselves to care if you're having sex. You'll cop some ribbing but it won't ruin your life.

Not had sex with your girlfriend of three years...? I think that is mainly the weird thing, not that you actually haven't had sex.

I am a virgin aswell. I don't see the problem with it. Although it does get annoying when someone asks and I reply "No, I haven't had sex, I am a virgin", and they reply like "Oh my God! No way?! I didn't think someone like you would be a virgin!"...And they just blab on about it.
I kind of want to have sex just so I can stop that conversation from coming up.

Just say "she wasn't ready for the D" and you'll get instant respect.

Your a rare breed of man...You dont want to(Hit it and quit it) do you?Men like you arent assholes who take advantage of women and spred there filth across this already scorched earth!!!You are pure and will rise above the slaves to the impulse!!!Remember slaves build.Masters are built.True men are neither!!!

Do you think that your ex-girlfriend has the same worries? She had a relationship for three years and now her new partner will find out that she is a virgin... If they think less of you, they should probably think less of her, too.
You can still start spreading gossips that you had only anal sex with her because she wanted to keep her virginity and lose it only after getting married:) /just joking/

I dont see why its a big deal. It seems that youre asexual. Its not too common but not that abnormal either.

god bro whats wrong with you, you shoulda just banged her so you wouldnt look bad =D

There's nothing wrong with you :) and if they do ask questions and you dont want to explain your complicated position.. just say you dont believe in sex before marriage x

I think its really sweet that you didn't have sex!

This is a time in your life where you shouldn't be sweating the sweaty things but petting them to what you find attractive. Usually if you're straight, boobs have a way of poking you in the eye. Just because you get a stiffy dosen't really mean you want to bang her with it, it just means you want releif, so relieve it.

then dont reveal it!

People are retarded. They care more about who did it with who, and how many times, than how it really went. Trust me, you can get it on a million times and never get it right. It's about quality, not quantity.

It will become a topic of gossip for a little while, but it probably won't be as bad as you think. They'll get bored with it pretty quickly and move on. Take this as a lesson for next time. In the future, if someone asks about your sex life, just say, "It's a private matter" or "I don't kiss and tell."

If you've been going around telling everyone you f*cked her, your going to look a right fool.

Tell people who judge you for your sexuality to fuck off. They are idiots.

Be confidant in the fact that you don't want sex quite yet. It's alright, there are plenty of girls who want that in a guy. If you don't let teasing get to you, then they won't tease you.

So you were in a 3 year platonic relationship. So are you homosexual, if so then your social life will be fine. Tell your friends you are coming out and if they stope being friends with you, fine.

Your friend who's probably banging her right now would most likely be thanking your right now.

Will you be my wingman?

People will probably talk about it, but why would they think less of you?