The porn that gets me off is getting more and more deviant. help!

Fuck that tube shit man. I know all about what it's like to travel down that road. The people who make that porn and distribute it are involved in spiritual warfare. It's designed to infect the psychosphere. Addressing the problem and defining it is only the first step. Next, you need to take some steps to get yourself out of this hole you're in. Porn is not about sex. It's a drug that is similar to amphetamines. You are addicted to a drug. Repeat that to yourself over and over again. If you stop you will go through withdrawal. Physical and mental withdrawal.

Ok, first off, you absolutely have to stop watching tube porn. It's nothing but a black hole. I know that's what you're watching, because you can't help going onto the next 5 minute clip searching for the ultimate one (which never comes) and then suddenly it's 2 hours later and you're completely strung out and your web history is a complete mess. That leads to intense feelings of self loathing and loss.

You can still watch porn (even the hard stuff). Do you have a collection of videos that you keep hidden in a folder? Most guys do. Download more videos if you want, but do not under any circumstances consume any tube porn. Keep watching what you like to watch; as long as it's only those videos from your collection. Add more to the collection if you get bored with what you already have. But limit yourself. I mean don't go out on some porn bonanza on a torrent site or you'll end up feeling just as shitty as with the tube.

I don't know how far you want to go down the road to recovery. Maybe you would still like to watch once in a while (as I do). I can't tell you how to remain abstinent for any extended period of time because I don't. But you will become much happier if you begin the process of immersing yourself in social environments that naturally keep you away from your computer. That's what I do. I don't think about it when I'm away from it because I'm too busy. Stay busy.

The name of the game is to not ever consume tube porn though. Just look at the names of the uploaders. The satanic panic of the 80's was a lot more legitimate than the people in power led the public to believe and there is all out spiritual warfare going on right now. Can you guess who's winning?

Go out and start meeting women. You like that amphetamine rush that you get from watching porn? Experiencing that rush in 3 dimensions just from being in the presence of a woman who you like blows that other shit out of the water.

Good luck, and I feel your pain. I'm happy to talk more about it if you would like because I think pornography and the porn industry is a fascinating area of study. Let me know if you have any more questions, or tell me more about your situation.

If you feel this is ruining your life then you really should consider seeking out some kind of professional help. I know it is embarrassing but the person you are likely going to end up talking to has studied human behaviour, and has interacted with lots of people who might be suffering from similar things to what you are going through.

I can't stress that point enough. It'll be far better to look back on today from five years down the line and think, "gee, that was embarrassing but I am glad I sorted that out." than it will be to be stuck in the same cycle.

Anyhoo, sex -even with yourself- is pretty great. I certainly like it and I don't think you should be denying yourself pleasure. Maybe you just need to move away from porn.

Try exploring yourself in a "purer" way, i.e, explore your body, find how to pleasure yourself as an act in and of it's self, not as a response to porn. I have felt pretty dependant on porn at times in my life but there is more to being aroused than that.

I guess that we can become dependent on certain things, thoughts, objects, images, taboos or whatever to "get the job done" but it is possible to relax and enjoy other things, the more you do it, the more you might begin to feel healthy again.

I know this was a bit of a ramble but I hope this helps.

Hey.

So I kinda understand how you feel. I have had this type of obsession too with the creepiness of the internet. It's addicting, I know.

After I get done reading something I shouldn't that maybe had me get turned on or something, I felt horrible and it's like you have this new addiction to add to your life now.

So what did I do? Well, I saw my problem and had to slowly ease out of it. I got too disgusted with myself so I avoided my temptation and tried other things whether it was reading or playing video games or something, anything, to distract myself.

I think that is the key.

If it's not working try looking up some therapy for addictions online maybe?

Or talk with a counciler on campus. They will understand.

Hope this helps.

Honestly dude, Ive done this same thing.

The simple answer is that porn desensitizes you, and makes everything sexual more boring, and eventually even porn gets boring and you need darker shit...therefore...

The only way to stop is to stop. Just go cold turkey and stop watching porn completely.
Eventually, you will lose your "desensitization" and will slowly become sensitive again. Who knows? Maybe eventually you'll enjoy holding hands again.

If going cold turkey gets hard and you really need to watch porn...
...something good to do when you want to masturbate, is work out instead.
Going and and doing something like playing basketball or going for a run will definitely help out.
(Plus you can even out your arms so the right is no longer bigger than the left)

Go for it, you can do it ;)

Yawn...urumm fucking boring, yawn, yawn, almost fell asleep reading your post. watch porn and wank, most men do!

Obviously it's become a big problem in your life (I was in a similar situation few years back and decided to quit cold turkey). If you're serious about quitting go and get some help. There are people that can help you with that.

Besides too much porn can ruin your brain's sexual response and your ability to get hard or turned on in a normal sexual situation. There's plenty of studies that prove that. I'm not completely against porn per se, but when it gets to that level it's a problem.

Obviously it's become a big problem in your life. If you're serious about quitting go and get some help. There are people that can help you with that.

Besides too much porn can ruin your brains sexual response and your ability to get hard or turned on in a normal sexual situation. There's plenty of studies that prove that. I'm not completely against porn per se, but when it gets to that level it's a problem.