The only woman working at a job with all males

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im a 24 year old female. I'm a welder and have been doing so on and off since 2008. I now have a steady welding job and the only chick working there. im a easy going person and don't talk much. so my question, is it normal that I keep to myself and not socialize with my boss or the male coworkers, even on break? im a little stand offish but I like to work and keep to myself. I literally talk to only 2 of the men there that are a little more open to me. does my boss and coworkers find this weird or off putting that I'm distant? Im not bad on the eye either and don't want them thinking that I'm scared of them or I don't like them... I just rather not socialize much. please let me know if this is weird female behavior or normal.

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  • Petrichor.
    9 years ago

    Just be yourself and forget what ever anyone else thinks. If you're stand off by nature then follow that. If they assume anything about you that's on them.

    People should not assume anything of anyone unless they give you probable cause - in my opinion, you keeping to yourself is not enough reason for them to think you're weird or scared of them.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I don't think it is weird. Some people are more quiet and emotionally reserved than others. I bet that the end of the day, the thing they care about the most is whether you are doing a good job or not. If your boss hasn't had to reprimand you over this, that's a good thing.

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  • golden_showers
    9 years ago

    get off your high horse and just assess people for their insides. make friends with people who are beautiful on the inside. those are the most valuable people to know.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      high horse really for being a loner? if I were a man who works and is a very personal person and keeps to himself, people will think he's independent maybe even strong and a hell of a worker. But you I think for some reason I'm conceited. when in actuality I am the most grounded and open minded person you'd probably ever meet. I keep to myself because I have great character.. the type of character most people don't have these days. Im a very primitive and philosophical person. people think I'm weird and occasionally ridicule me. I'm a very personal person and I do open up when I feel the want. im far from snobby and I don't crave attention. but some of the other comments were right I guess I shouldn't care about what other people think and just do what I love.

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      • golden_showers
        9 years ago

        well, whatever, but you missed my point. When you find someone that is beautiful on the inside, embrace THAT person. Try to choose those people as friends, because they are the most valuable human beings.

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        • thisWelder08
          9 years ago

          whatever? thats what you took from my opinion? you're being redundant and you're clearly don't understand my point.

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          • golden_showers
            9 years ago

            you're the one ignoring my main point.. INNER BEAUTY!

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      • Ellenna
        9 years ago

        I think you're putting a lot of energy into trying to work out what other people think of you: this is a self-esteem issue for you to work on, you don't know what they're thinking about you.

        I don't understand a couple of things in yr last post: what people think you are weird enough to ridicule you and what do you mean by being "very primitive"?

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    It's fine to want to be left alone. At least learn pole dancing to vent some of your pent up energy.

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    • thisWelder08
      9 years ago

      lol you all are nuts:) thanks for the advice

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      She's already a welder. Learning pole dancing would just be degrading and stupid. Pole dancing is for stupid uneducated women who have nothing better to do than parade their bodies around infront of fat bald unhappily married men because they were too stupid to get an education and too low class to find a decent enough man to take care of them.

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      • Darkoil
        9 years ago

        Yeah but it makes their bobbies jangle about, that can't be a bad thing.

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        • Cuntsiclestick
          9 years ago

          Hooray for boobies!

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      • green_boogers
        9 years ago

        Dude. She can do private dances for her boyfriend until he begs for mercy. What better way to unwind from a high paid job like precision welding.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Is this Alex? Alexandra "Alex" Owens? Wow, I didn't think you were real. We here on IIN are so honored that you decided to stop by and post.
    Come on everybody, give a warm welcome to the star of Flashdance!

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    • thisWelder08
      9 years ago

      funny because I didn't watch the movie until the first time a couple of years ago. great movie

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  • DrEvil
    9 years ago

    You should join my organization and earn one hundred billion dollars!

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    Depends, 1 on your personality and 2 on the work environment.

    Hazing or sexism may be more prevalent in ur situation and to combat that your exclude yourself from your co workers except when nessasary.

    Really its not my place to judge. Why do you ask? Are you worried about how your received by co workers?

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    • thisWelder08
      9 years ago

      hazing.. you think? I worry about not being taken serious at the job. I'm actually a very interesting person to talk to yet im very personal and just want to weld. as I got older I have become more reserved, I've had a few welding jobs when I was 17 and 18 and I was a lot more open. So I wonder if it's normal

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      • shuggy-chan
        9 years ago

        I just know when the male to female ratio is skewed. That dumb comments can be made.

        But genreally i think welders are cool people. So idk, i mean how long have u worked there?

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