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I think the most important relationship advice is if they introduce you to people they know. That is because how someone treats others, is how they will treat you.
...that...that's not...advice. that's an opinion. Sort of.
I don't know, it's barely sentences.
I was trying to keep it short and simple. My point is some people who meet a new person will not bring around people they know because they may say bad things about them. If someone new brings around people who say good things, they will be more likely to be a reliable person because people generally treat everyone the same.
I think you make too many assumptions about family and family relations. You might have good relations with your family but not all of us do.
As well as that some family will pick certain family members and talk trash about them. Imagine having a girl you like taking her home and your family telling that girl why she should "RUN NOW". See do you really want to lose the girl or avoid your family?
Theres also what if your parents dont approve of it (RomeoXJuliet) type thing. How about if the person was disowned or has no family(What if they are an orphan or all relatives already died)? I was actually disowned by mine does that make me bad for not wanting to take my future partner home to them?
Some of us are good people too but come from dysfunctional family's.
I'm still very confused.
I think generally, if someone you meet is reluctant to introduce you to people they know, it's something to be wary of - they may be hiding something. Though that's not always the case (I know for example, I'm not so keen on introducing my family to people, because they're fucking mental...).
Is that what you're getting at?
Or are you getting at: the way people treat people they don't know is indicative of who they are as people, as opposed to how they treat people they know (ie, they'll treat a waiter like shit, but be super nice to people)?
Or am I way off?
Its both.
I know some people may have dysfunctional families, but generally if I meet someone who is hesitant to introduce me to people they associate with, they are probably a sketchy person, because why else wouldnt they want you to meet people they know.
Also if someone regularly treats people like crap, that is a good sign of how they will act towards you as well.
Ok. Yeah. I mostly agree with both, but I don't ever adhere completely to the 'rules' of a situation, because there are no two situations that are completely the same.
I think in keeping it brief, you've left out all the important words. Your sentences were a totally confusing jumble.
Its good advice for spoiling a house cat, you want some chiken treats kitty!..... *walks off rattling the container*
I agree. I think the main reason I became sucked into my ex's trap was because he kept so much distance between me and his friends and family. I met his brother and his dad but his brother was a terrible person and his dad was drunk and slutty so they just made him look better by contrast.
Finally I started getting closer to his friends, who were good people, and seen that he would say things to try to make them look bad and he would use them, never sacrifice for the friendship but then bitch when they couldn't succumb to his whims. That's when I noticed that that was exactly how I was being treated, except worse.
I, however, am in the maniac family group, and will possibly take ages to introduce an SO to certain family members.
huh? what????????????????????????
try again. take a deep breath, calm yourself. now, try again to make a little bit of sense.
okay wait...are you saying basically to watch your SO how they treat others? and if they treat their close friends and family shitty then they will prob treat me shitty? Thats what I got from here...
Not necessarily. To be honest, I don't care for my family too much. Some "bad blood" existed at one point. I've forgiven, but haven't forgotten. Plus, I distanced myself from my family and no longer have anything in common with them. I usually keep to myself so I don't know many people, which doesn't mean I treat others bad.
From my perspective, I disagree that it's the most important thing. If I'm in a relationship, I'm not going to introduce them to my family for awhile unless the person really wanted me to. Then, I probably would.
You mean living by the Golden rule?
Yes, I agree. It is a lovely life philosophy.