The feeling of watching life go by

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My Current Circumstances:

- 27, Male
- Just bought a house
- Good job (salary), nice car
- Single

My feeling of missing out on life:

- My job bores the hell out of me, sitting in front of a laptop in a non-inspiring office. But I need to stick with it because it pays well (and the mortgage), is flexible and is something I can progress with.

- I hardly have any friends. A lot have moved away. I go to the gym but most are not possible friends. I play golf, but most are old men. I'm not the sort of person to go out often (mainly because of the lack of friends situation).

- I live in a city that is far away from any going-ons. I'm glad I purchased a house to get on the market, but it is restricting me to push the boundaries to move somewhere.

- I want to go and travel. I'd love to go live in the USA or Canada for a few years, but I'm too shit scared of having a crap job, no money and thus my career prospects go down the drain. I also have the perception that I'd easily meet lots of new friends if I moved abroad to a city - but this could be extremely unrealistic. When I went to University I had loads of friends - but they all live 200 miles away currently.

- 27 years old. It feels old. Just over 2 years until I hit 30. The feeling is 32 is having kids and getting married age. That leaves me with 5 years to sort myself out and fulfil these desires to live life that I feel I am missing out on.

Anyone else feel they are in the same boat? Any advice?

R

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I'm 30 and have noticed life goes faster as you get older. I think part of it is the reality check of how short of time you have to do what you want.

    There are so many things I want to do and I have done a lot already but life can be full of endless possibilities.

    I recommend not giving a fuck about career, money, wife, kids, stable home. Life is so much more open to experience without those things. I have none of those and while I have my own problems, I can do whatever the fuck I want, and that is a great way to live.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      What kind of food do you eat?

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        You already asked me that 2 days ago. I get food stamps as well as eat food at my moms house. I also go out to resturants a lot. I like all kinds of ethnic food from all over the world. I'm not a fan of fast food with the exceptions for places that sell good quality meat. Cheap fast food is awful to me but I get by enough with what I got to eat pretty good.

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          I only eat human organs.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            Oh, they have those at the butchery.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Obviously, you have placed money and security before your dreams and adventurous spirit. Don't fret, you are doing what most are doing in the western world.
    Only a few choose to try to live their lives without security and money, traveling and adventuring through life. Some succeed, but most end up going back to the rat race, living lives of quiet desperation.
    You are not alone, in fact you are the majority. Therefor, you are indeed one of the normal ones.

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  • derpyderp
    9 years ago

    Mate, I could have written this!
    In almost your exact same position...

    There is what I do then what I want to do.

    I am currently trying to decide if I should quit my job, sell most of my shit & start living life.

    I'm not very happy with life & realistically I could die next week.
    In that case what will all my possessions, money in the bank, etc be worth?

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    • FlapjackOctopus
      9 years ago

      I think my main fear is lack of money. Quite rightly, if I head abroad with a 1 year VISA, there will not be many companies willing to take me on in a well paid position. Add to this the fact that what I do now probably isn't what I want to do in the future, then anything I apply for will either be unskilled or skilled in something that bores me. Having said that, if it is in the right company I may love it!.

      What is your job? Are you thinking abroad as well?

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      • derpyderp
        9 years ago

        Sorry, should have mentioned the only thing not relative to me is your wish to travel.
        That doesn't bother me too much personally...

        I'm just in a position where I feel there has to be more to life than working until retirement age then being too old to enjoy what time I have left.
        I want to live my life now damn it!

        I feel like I'm stuck in a cycle where I work to buy nice things & buy nice things to keep myself motivated to keep working. Does that even make sense?

        Job is nothing too special, I specialise in a certain area of building automatic transmissions but am good at it & have worked my way up to a role where I am well respected & in charge of others after just a few years which is rare for this job & for someone of my age.

        This may be irresponsible in a way, as the outcome doesn't affect me, but my advice is to follow your dreams. Do it now, before you have a family, & if the worst does happen, only you are affected.
        It will be a lot harder down the road if you try & fail...

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  • ilovetoiletrolls
    9 years ago

    27 is hardly old. I don't even think 37 is seen as old. Age truly is just a number and you're only as old as you feel. You just need to join more community oriented things or take a class at a local college. The people involved in both of those range in ages.

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