The father in law

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I am currently living with my boyfriend and his father, and am having some trouble. The father is always pestering my boyfriend about what ever I do, etc, if i go out with the girls he says "I wouldnt put up with that" or if I borrow his car (because mine is getting fixed) he winges.

He timed me having a shower and told my boyfriend how long I was and complaining about it (aying theres where the hot water goes all the time).

Or he always says I always get my own way and " I wouldnt put up wit that".

My boyfriend told me the other day when he was drunk that he is starting to hate his father for what he is doing, but I find that hard to believe, its his family why would he side with me? Even if he does love me.

He never says anything to me just my boyfriend. And I would move out if i had somewhere to go but ufortently I dont.

And he is giving me cheap shots to my face about alot of things I say, but I dont want to get into an arguement for my botfriends sake.

Im always nice to him, I dont understand why he would put so much pressure on our relationship, expecially when we ae happy together, and he can see that.

Sometimes I wonder if he let me live here to break us up.

Does anyone have any advice on what i should do?

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  • WayOutThere
    14 years ago

    How old is your boyfriend? It sounds like he might be old enough to move out and shouldn't be living with his father. You both should find another place to live.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    13 years ago

    You need to get your own place.

    It sounds like your boyfriend's father is resenting having to support both of you.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    ^ exactly.

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  • NotEverEnuf
    13 years ago

    Sounds like y'all you need to move out. Shouldn't be a prob with 2 incomes. You have to be willing to pitch in also if he can't afford it all.

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  • ladypinky
    13 years ago

    Why doesn't your boyfriend say something to his father when he is talking to him about you like that?

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  • minniminnihaha
    14 years ago

    hes 22. and we will be moving out when we have enough money. but need help bout it till we can move out??

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    • WayOutThere
      14 years ago

      He's definitely old enough to move out. Living at home, at that age, is simply not healthy. Do so, as soon as you can. If you don't have enough money, find some kind of shared accommodation, or live with another couple.

      In the mean time, you're going to have to put up with your father in law's behavior. It's his house, after all. Don't let him get to you.

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    • lucid_dream
      14 years ago

      try talking to him. confront HIM about it, and ask him what you're doing to bother him. try and be really nice, respectful/etc. doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong, but if you do something to show him you respect him, and keep things calm, he might change his views on you. he sounds old fashioned? if your boyfriend doesn't have a problem with it, no big deal. you're not dating his father, it's not any of his business unless it directly concerns the house.

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  • Crazydiamond
    14 years ago

    Again what WOT said...move out ASAP

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  • DiscoDuck
    13 years ago

    No worse than Mothers imo...

    But if he is starting to hate his father then thats a problem, he should dump you before that happens.

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