The date didn't go well for you....how do you leave it?

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Say you went on a date and you just didn't click with the person, you know you don't care to see them again. However, they seemed to have a great time, they like you and want to go out again, and they ask if they can call you for another date....

Do you:

Lie and say it's OK to call, but dodge their calls untill they give up 5
Pretend you had a good time too and agree to go out again. 1
Say that you had a good time, but don't care to go out again. 18
Say that the date was bad and that you never want to go out again. 5
Don't say anything and keep going out untill you can't take it anymore 2
Say you had a good time and wait till they call to let them down. 7
Agree to go out again but not show up. 2
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  • graphic_nature
    12 years ago

    I know exactly what I would do because I was in that situation.

    There was a girl who kept wanting to be my friend and I gave her a chance by hanging out several times but we did NOT click and I felt she was sort of a loser.. So I pretended to have good times then I ditched her texts and calls. I even went as far as to stop shopping at one of my fav stores she worked at and made up a lie of what I would tell her if she ever met up with me.

    I'm not proud of how I handled the situation, but sometimes white lies sting less than truth :P

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  • pantaloonz
    12 years ago

    What the hell happened to the truth?

    Tell the person you don't think you clicked with them, and prefer not to go out again.

    Jesus, grow a spine.

    -Pantz

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  • lisac1919
    12 years ago

    i chose the first one cause im a pussy

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    go to the bathroom and start texting people until u find someone who wants to hang out, then come back and tell them what took so long is u got diarrhea and need to go directly home and then go meet your friends and laugh aboit it. if they contact you about hanging out, tell them u got back with ur ex (not to be spineless, but to spare their feelings)

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    "Lie and say it's OK to call, but dodge their calls until they give up" or "Don't say anything and keep going out untill you can't take it anymore"

    Not because I'm mean, because I'm socially awkward and have trouble talking about important things.

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    Go on another date. Some of my friends I clicked with instantly, some I really didn't like at first. I'd hate not to know any of them just because of my first impression.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Well let's say she mentioned a few things that you just can't stand. Perhaps she is a racist or hates animals (because I KNOW you love animals, dappled!!) or something along those lines that you just couldn't get past.

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      • dappled
        12 years ago

        Hmm, that doesn't sound good. And you're not wrong on the animals. If a girl asks me back to her place because she wants to show me her puppies, the largest part of me is hoping for little dogs that are going to leap all over me.

        I'd still go on another date, and try to find out why she's racist or hates animals. But I guess it depends how bad it is. If I know we're never going to meet in the middle, then yeah, maybe I'd politely decline. I can't imagine being with someone who didn't like animals at all.

        What was the sticking point for you, by the way? Or was it just a hypothetical?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago

          I just like to see how honest or upfront people would be in certain situations.

          If it was me, and things were going very badly, I'd either leave before the date was over (depending on how bad it was) OR let the person know to never call me again.

          I wasn't always like that, I used to be too "nice" or too concerned about hurting someone's feelings but then I kinda realized why waste my life trying to make everyone happy and put myself last? Especially in a situation like this, if I know there's no chance of going out again, why drag it out? I think it hurts both parties less to just be upfront. Not necessarily mean, just honest!! Why waste their time and mine? Plus, I'm a female, and if I said something like "we can be friends"...guys just don't "get" that. They always think there's still a chance. I've been there, done that too!!

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