The air force may be killing my love life.

omg its the air force for god's sake!! what could possibly happen to him, working a desk job, or on planes, etc. Its not like hes ever gonna see any combat or danger, so really, ur tripping. and it is his life, his decision and his future, ur either with him or agaisnt him.

Dump him

Honestly, if it is what he truly wants to do...you should not try to convince him otherwise. I see that you care for him, but if you really did respect him and his feelings, you would let him be with the decision he makes.

You're obviously young and the way iknow it is that you feel the right to tell him what you want him to do. Adults allow other adults to make their own decisions and deal with those decisions in a grown up way. No one should let anyone decide how to live their life. I wouldn't let anyone yell me what to do. My life is my own & his is his alone.

Honestly, if he really cared about you and loved you, he wouldn't join, so obviously he doesn't love you. Go find someone else or cry in front of him. If he still doesn't care, he's not meant to be.

I had a friend DIE in the airforce and he wasn't even in combat, so I know what you mean. I hate people who throw their lifes away to serve in the military at such a young age.

Way I see it you have two basic choices, Let him pursue his goals and deal with it, or Confront him and get your point across. Fear comes with Important decisions don't worry.

Hello,

There is something you need to understand. Like it or not, your boyfriend is right. Frankly, there's nothing or at least very little you can do to stop him. Troops are fighting on our behalf in Afghanistan as we speak and they have parents, partners and children worrying sick for them and even they can't do very much about it.

Even if you succeed in stopping him, it will only cause resentment. Maybe in the beginning, you are happy that he is with you always, but after a while, as far as he is concerned, he desperately wants to do something and he can only see you as something in the way of it. This will lead to arguments and mood swings and all the rest of it and this is all going t end in tears, believe me.

To cut the long story short, I'm afraid you can't really stop him. Only something very extreme will stop him. For example, if you suddenly get pregnant, he may really think twice about whether he really wants to put himself at risk and not be there for the baby. Even then there is no guarantee that this is going to work. Just let him be. He will have to decide his own destiny, not you.