That special "friend"

Ok first of all I"m doing this for my friend not me.Well she has a boyfriend but they barely talk.She just doesn't know what to talk to him about.She usually always has something to say but when it comes to him she keeps quiet.She's worried that it will make the relationship awkward(by the way they started going out like 6 days from now).Basically she just needs help talking to him.She has no certain topic to talk to him about so can you please tell me(well really her)different things to talk to him about Thank you:)

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Comments ( 21 )
  • hornsby123

    Why are they going out? They're quite clearly not compatible.

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  • everybdysweetheart

    honestly for me you dont even make good sense. I am not sure HOW to respond becuz yur just too weird. the thought babbling comes to mind. if your serious no its not normal is all i can give you

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  • Niea65

    Y'know, aside form the guy's interests, they could just talk about just about anything. Even the simplest. Like.."hey, look at that product int he grocery store. i heard its blah blah" something like that. Just about anything. And from their, conversations and other topics could be rooted out.

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  • Cosmicgiggle

    Why are they boyfriend/girlfriend after six days? They're moving too quick. That's why she can't think of anything to say. They don't know each other. Tell them to step back, relax, and date. Will take pressure off

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  • ThinkPad

    Well for starters you sound about 15 years old. "break up" from your "boyfriend" (we all know your friend is you), you'll find another boy to like in a couple hours

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  • Well... I usually talk to people about what they like and go on with it. Helps with connection.

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  • digitalbroken

    People do not need to use verbal communication to feel close to one another, or to enjoy a relationship.

    If the lack of verbal communication is causing problems in the relationship, then that sounds like an excellent reason to talk, and topic for them to talk about!

    Lastly, it is completely normal--not all relationships work the same way, but if people love each other or can make each other happy, there is no reason to create problems that aren't there by trying to be "normal".

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  • lailaihei

    It's for my friend.... lol, are you sure? that's the most common lie in this matter xD

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  • christine

    If she honestly has trouble talking to him then they do not know eachother well enough to be dating. If she keeps this up then he WILL lose interest fast and break it off with her.

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  • chuck_rules_fosho

    Hell, just talk about anything. Thats how you figure out if you have common interests.

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  • sssssssssseeeeeeeeeetttttttttt

    Wow! Unbelievable, I thought I was the only person in the whole world that got this sensation. I think the person who linked it to people doing for you nailed it. It sounds weird but as a child I would get it when the librarian would stamp my library card with one of those old electric date stampers. As an adult I get it a lot when professionals like bug exterminators are spraying around my house or home inspectors checking around in our crawl space.
    I even use to get it when people would work up estimates for me on car repairs and tear off the receipt. It's a weird tingly sensation that runs from my upper spine to the back of my head. This sounds weird but I could literally watch someone spray a house for bugs for hours.

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  • cflisthebest

    oh I am so unbelievably glad to find others that have this!

    I've had it happen a lot..

    i'll be at work, sitting at my desk, and the lady who waters plants came by and I was watching her do this, and that sensation started and it felt so good! I got a rise out of watching her! the cutting of my hair, yes that too..

    or when I am getting dress pants measured for fit..

    I can't remember them all but ya I would get a high, a rise out of observing this activity!

    just today these guys were in the area, checking out the desks and it happened..

    I would just stop what I was doing and watch and sure enough... mmmm

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  • shireboy

    Im at work and the cleaner just came in and washed my floors. I stood and watched it and had that fantastic tingling/vibration feeling in the back of my skull. I have had this since a little boy. I remember sitting on my pushbike at around 7 years of age and my best friend was pumping up my tyre and I got it then. It seems to me that it relates to when someone does a gesture for you that they don't really need to do. As I type this just thinking about certain times it has happened triggers it off. Fantastic feeling. I wish I could market a tablet that gave it to you!!

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  • Google "conversation starters?" Sounds to me that she is a yakker who is just choking cause she's nervous & awkward around the guy. Maybe they could do more activity oriented things that would put less focus on the talk-talk-talk & more on just having fun & getting comfortable.

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  • Penispoopoo

    Your friend has to say something, anything! Tell her to apply the "Three Strike Rule". She should either a) ask him a question or b) tell him something personal. If for some reason this method fails on three occasions she should dump him for someone less vegetate(retarded). This has not become a problem yet considering the short period of time the relationship has existed.

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  • combatgal856

    Conversation should be natural. You have to start somewhere, even if it's just 'this whether's nice'...'I rember once when..'...'havbe you ever...'

    Just tell her to speak

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  • k_creeper

    its normal for people to be shy.
    but if "she" wants to stay in a relationship, she needs to open up and break the waterline.

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  • melvino

    talk about life ppl like to talk about themselfs

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  • prettywoman

    how old is your friend that she doesn't even know how to make a conversation with a guy!

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  • JoeyAnne

    6 days?? how young are you?? this relationship wont last long. if your friend is already having problems after a week of going out, then somethings up. but if she wants to make it work, tell her to ask him random stuff. trust, it works. anything that pops up in her mind. favorite soda, favorite animal, favorite fruit, favorite celebrity. it makes the conversation a little more interesting.

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  • andrian007

    Ask your friend what her bf is like. What are his hobbies? This is a very useful skill to know because anytime in the future, if you want to maintain a strong and stable relationship with a person, you'd better know some of his hobbies and try to at least take an interest. You would appreciate it too if your bf takes an interest in what you do. If things go on like this, then maybe they just have nothing in common...

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