That i want to wait to sleep with my bf until we`re married?

I can't believe you would be so stupid. If I was your patner I would leave you

Any pastor who would tell you to break up a happy family and throw a child's life into chaos isn't preaching the word of god.
However, you've been with your bf long enough to have a kid... So why not get married?

A little to late for that now don't you think?realistically you gave a child together, why would you split up or even disrupt your childs life that much? I'm sure god would rather see two patents together in the same home w their baby and a loving family then have them split up just cuz they aren't married... Yet. You should think about your childs well being first. Not many kids have their parents in the same home anymore.

It's fine. Just be prepared to overlook the fact he's gonna be fucking someone else till you guys start back up.

I say as long as he believes in something you shouldn't have too much of a problem. I know several people who had 1 Jewish parent and 1 Christian parent. All of them grew up to be good people with working moral compases.
What's odd to me is how you seem to pick and choose when/how you follow the Christian belief system. (no sex out of wed lock yet you have a baby with the guy and NOW you want him to move out?) if you're looking for an out to this relationship don't use religion cause it will just turn your kid against religion (just saying).

Yeah it's a little too late for that one. And stop listening to those stupid religion morals they have about fornication. You are your own person if "god" doesn't like it too bad.

I personally think that is a bad idea to stop all sex and move into separate places after being together so long and having a child. You will probably lose him if you go through with it.

Christianity, and religion altogether is an incredibly difficult lifestyle to live, and every decision you make within it should be a choice YOU have come to understand. Not what others are telling you to understand.

If you believe that God does not want you to have sex before marriage (despite already having a child), then that is your choice. But you have to realize how confusing that is going to be to him, especially if he is not religious.

The only thing I honestly know to say, is to make sure that this step is right for YOU and YOUR faith. So many churches want to pressure others to conform into what they believe is right...when it's usually not. Or at least not to every individual.

Once you have that, make it clear to your boyfriend what you want, how you want to do it, and understand that he may be hurt by this new transformation. Give him time to adjust, and think over the idea. And talk about it together.

Good luck

U don't have to leave him but you need to stop having sex until you get married that's all. U r responsible for working on the situation because u now undestad what god wantes

I never said that I was forcing him to do anything I simply said that God does not want me to be with someone who is not christian and that I hope God puts it on my heart to try to bring him to Jesus, you can`t force someone into religon you can simply present the facts. Yes who knows when he`ll propose maybe never that`s why I will not wait for him forever I will just go where God wants me to and when he wants me to, he can only predict the future. If that means I will be alone for the rest of my life or find a good christian man who shares the same values. I can only hope that Gods plan for us is to stay together. As for my daughter she deserves to be in a house hold were she can see what a healthy happy relationship looks like and you can not get that with to people who would be going to different ways. That`s what is happening when one wants to walk in the spirit and the other only wants to furfill the fleshly disires. 1 of the reasons I desided to do this is because it will be the best thing for my daughter.

And what religion are you? PS forcing people to 'find God' doesn't work. They need to find him in their own way and time.
Also you child is one now... how long will it take for your bf to find god and prepose? 1 month? 1 year?

I was also told that I shouldn`t marry someone who is not christian and I already understand why. So even if he does propose today I could not say yes. I`m just trying right now to strenghten my relationship with God and then if God puts it on my heart to try to bring him to Jesus than that`s what I`ll do and I hope that`s what will happen. Then maybe we can talk about marriage again.

It will not get him to propose sooner. You can't force someone into something they do not want to do. And if you can or do is that the way you really want it? Because you forced them into it? I don't think so.

It is never too late do it if anything it will just get him to propose sooner i wish i could do it i live with my boyfriend and absolutely love sex all the time but seriously good for u good luck

Before you go moving out think about the impact it could have on your kid. Beside could you live happily/well with out him?

you are all wrong. there is no god. that pastor doesnt know what he is talking about. he is a fool.

religious people gross me out.

I`m not trying to end the relationship I love him very much. If you read the whole thing you would see that I`ve rediscoverd my religon when we were doing ungodly things I was not following the bible and now I`m trying to find a way to follow what God wants me to do and still find a why for our relationship to work out in the long run like marriage.

Yea and not have kids out of wedlock in the first place... Gosh good luck with that

Hey good 4 u most of these others comments r so high and mighty i agree

Us being together for so long is part of my issuses and he doesn`t want to get married right now (I think he has camitment issuse). Now the pastor says unless he becomes as believer I should not be with him because of what the bible says but if he does become a believer we should get married. Part of our problems are is that he does not know what to believe and I`m all in for christianity what kind of house hold is that to raise a child, I would be telling her one thing and he would be telling her another that`s why it`s best to marry in your religon.

Oh religion...