That i hate my dad even though he is nice ?

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okay i really HATE my dad, he is super nice to me now but people don't know the story behind what he did. He left me when i was little and then EXCEPTED me to come to his house every other weekend (fri-sat).i think that he is ridiculous but my mom makes me go. i dont want a relationship with him but i have no choice, so when im there i act like im being tortured and do nothing. is it normal , to hate him after this ? oh yeah he left ne for 10 years then as i was 12 he came back. GET OUTTA HERE .

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  • flutterhigh
    12 years ago

    You sound incredibly mature and well-adjusted. Keep it up!

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  • dontpissmeoff
    12 years ago

    when i was younger i did but as i got older i realized how stupid the grudge i held against him was and forgot about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I'M MR. BUCKET, PUT YOUR BALLS IN MY MOUTH!

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    It's normal to hate him but it's also normal to give him a chance to make up for what he's done.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    It sucks that you have to see him even when you don't to, and it's normal to hate him after what he did, but he sounds like a changed person, so it's only fair to give him a chance to prove that he isn't an ass anymore.

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  • RoyRogers
    8 years ago

    well basically he abandoned you and its normal not to trust people after that.

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  • disfunkshinal
    11 years ago

    Hate your typing style. Sorry. Had to say it.

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  • Verstehen
    12 years ago

    He's not perfect. He screwed up really bad. He hurt you deeply.

    Let him try to fix it.

    Trust me, if he died tomorrow, you would want to stab yourself repeatedly in the stomach for even having these thoughts.
    You honestly think you hate him. I understand that. But you don't hate him. Because if you didn't love him, this wouldn't hurt, and it wouldn't make you angry.

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  • sprite
    12 years ago

    As joybird said, he left your mother not you, the whole world does not revolve around you! Ever think that reason he sees you at all is because he wants to?

    It's good to remember that just because your parents have issues, they can and still love you, otherwise he wouldn't be making the effort at all.

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  • Baloo
    12 years ago

    It's normal to hate him, but perhaps you should give him a second chance.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    try and forgive him, everyone can make mistakes. i think you need each other

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  • nagasonavimana
    12 years ago

    You've no idea what kind of pain you're causing your father.

    This exact scenario happened with me when I was younger. I'm 25 now and I regret every shitty thing I've done to my dad. Understand that your folks (both of them) didn't get a blueprint on how to be married or have a kid. They're scared, confused, and frustrated just like you...only difference is, they gotta stand on their own as adults. They gotta pay mortgages and grocery bills, car notes and set aside money for your future.
    You want to be on solid footing with your pop? Deal with him like an adult. Understand him like an adult. Accept him for the flawed creature he is.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    In his mind, he left your mom not you, which is why he wanted to see you every other weekend. He has probably come back to work it out with your mom coz he loves you so much and couldn't bear to be away from you. Your mom probably admires this quality in him, coz so many fathers don't maintain the relationships with their children.

    Your probably jealous that you now have to share your mom's time with him so tell her and try to get some one to one time with her.

    Please let this resentment go, and take him as you find him on a day to day basis. This is an adult problem and not yours. Carry on with your life at school and with friends, before you know it you'll be old enough to move out. Concentrate on doing well in your exams!!

    Good luck pet - and post anytime.

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