That a guy gets stared a lot by another guy?

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I'm not trying to be narcissistic and all but more than often I have been called "handsome" (rarely "cute" and "hot"). And I have noticed that I do get stared at a lot by my peers.

However, I feel uncomfortable when people of the same sex stare at me; when I refer to people I do not mean random strangers. For instance, there is this guy around my age whom I see everyday because he goes to the same gym (I don't know him) but I find that when he passes in front of me he is always staring at my face--not in a threatening or flirty way (I'm pretty sure he is not interested in me that way) but somewhat observing my reactions, like studying my face. I pretend I don't see him because it feels awkward. Has anyone experienced this (including women staring at other women like this)?

Do you think it's because I tend to always have a poker face so he wants to know what I'm thinking? I'm not one to be confrontational, so what do you think this is about?

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  • JustCHELlin246
    12 years ago

    I am mystified by this social nuance as well! I think a lot of people do this, "people watch" because they are interested in a person's personality, or want to find out something about them (especially if you have a poker face). I do this as well, but I'd like to think I'm a little smoother about it than the guy you described. I have recently caught this one girl staring at me in class one day, but for my case I think it's just cause she was interested (not sexually).
    But all I can say is do you. Yeah its awkward when ppl you don't really know are openly "studying" you without any inclination of their motives, but besides confronting (saying "hey" and catching them might not be a bad idea either..) .I would just say try to put it off as they are just curious.
    And unlike alot of these comments, it may not be anything sexual as I have explained. Good luck!

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    • edapple
      11 years ago

      I hope there is nothing sexual about it haha. I am not very good at dealing with things like these

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      • JustCHELlin246
        11 years ago

        Who is haha

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  • Evilina17
    12 years ago

    You can be pretty sure about it all you want but it's called being in the closet and I think this guy is not hiding it very well.

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    • edapple
      11 years ago

      You may be onto something. I dunno but I get a weird aura when he's around. For example one time while i was signing in at reception, he was there and when I was using the terminal right in front of him, it looked like he froze and he tried to stare through me (i think he was trying to play it off as staring at something else). It's just a weird feeling like you could cut through the tension. I have also noticed that when he passes in front of me, he tries to look the other way (as if hiding his face). It's really odd. I have been trying to avoid him (but still trying to make it look like i am oblivious).

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  • Nugenrules
    11 years ago

    i usually stare at guys to show em whose boss. if they stare back, they entered my staring game, and i am usually the winner. if some guy is staring at me i pretend not to notice cause thats gay.

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    • edapple
      11 years ago

      It is pretty weird if someone of the same sex stares at you right? I do pretend i do not notice up to now

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    I zone out my surroundings and barely notice when people look at me. People tell me "He was sooo checking you out! How did you miss that??" my boyfriend sometimes gets jelouse cause he sees people looking, but I guess i'm thick with that stuff, so maybe you're just overly attuned to it? You notice more than most people would because it's something your thinking about. Aka you may not get looked at anymore often than the next person? Not to bash your ego or anything, but that could be it.

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    • edapple
      11 years ago

      No, its good that I am getting this point of view from you. I have thought this before and I tried to test how "attuned" i am to my surroundings, and I noticed that only a few specific people do this, so i am guessing that it is not in how sensitive i am. In fact, i am usually oblivious to the surroundings unless someone is obviously staring. But i am trying to desensitize myself to it so that i wont notice any staring.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    12 years ago

    I'm not gay but if I see a handsome man I occasionally stare while he doesn't see it in order to compare with my average looks and wonder what could be fixed or something in such a way that I'd get more female attention.

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    • edapple
      11 years ago

      This i can relate but to the point that I like the person's jacket so I am observing the style, but that is all. Or if someone has nice arms I will try to see what exercises he is doing.

      The only reason I feel like staring at the face is if i think the person looks familiar so I am trying to see whether i know the person or not,

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  • MRmr
    12 years ago

    Your gonna get analed

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  • tbiM20
    12 years ago

    If you stare back, they might feel obligated to continue looking. Lots of people "people watch". It's normal, maybe odd on their part, but normal.

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    • edapple
      11 years ago

      I'm starting to think that maybe I have stared at him because he stared so he thinks I'm staring at him and it becomes a never ending cycle so I am trying to not give recognition to him at all to end this. I have noticed that he is trying to make his presence known and it looks like he wants to be stared at so my plan backlashed

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