Terrible parent

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My best friend has an adult daughter, 21 years of age, living with a high school drop out, drug addict (as evidenced by Instagram postings)loser. She is a tech school drop out, retail level worker so you can imagine they have no money.

Basically, she called her Dad for money and he gives in every time. She lies to him because when she gets money, the instragram photos emerge with partying, drugging, vacations, etc. My friend can't seem to understand what is happening. When I show him the Instagram photos, he pushes them away and calls the live in boyfriend a "scumbag". Nothing every changes.

He has provided her with a new car, money, insurances (health and auto) and even agreed to buy her (and the loser) a new bed! She isolates him away from family and then lays on the "poor me, pity parade" and he agrees to pay or help out every time.

No doubt before long she will get knocked up and the story will continue as for many spoiled liars before. Question, how do I help him to understand that the more he pays, the longer the live in will hang around and the more at risk his spoiled daughter will be? He treats her like a 12 year old when she needs money and a 21 year old when he doesn't want to deal with her or see the truth.

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  • tittle
    10 years ago

    You're right, if she has a job she shouldn't really have to be borrowing money.
    But really, is this even any of your business?

    I realise he's your best friend, but aside from telling him what you think about the situation once or twice, I think you should probably butt out and let him take care of it. It's his daughter.

    Why are you looking at instagram photos of them?? Just so you can keep this guy (have you met him?) pegged as a 'loser' 'live in' 'drug addict'. Look, the guy probably is a loser. But you're the nosy creep looking at instagram photos and making judgment calls on peoples lives that have nothing to do with you!!

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    • mollymae22
      10 years ago

      I agree but they "follow" me so I guess at this point they forgot and now I see what they are doing (being they take 10 photos of themselves each day). So, it's the only way to know what's going on. When she asks for money or "puts on the pity parade" I know she just purchased a 50 inch flat screed and a new leather jacket.

      See, knowledge is insight..... her fault for forgetting I can see her Instagram........ dummy.........lol

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    • mollymae22
      10 years ago

      You're right, none of my business. It's just heartbreaking to hear him speak of her like she is an upstanding person, in school, successful, doing well, when she is not. He doesn't want to see so he doesn't have to deal with her. OK, I get it. It's just heartbreaking to see.

      She friended me on instagram a year ago so I get all of her party pics which coincide with the money she takes from him. That's all. She probably forgot I am one of her "friends" on instagram..... lol She is not that bright.

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  • richardbturgid
    10 years ago

    Stupid dad

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  • germanshepherd
    7 years ago

    What a loser the boyfriend is. What kind of guy lives off his girlfriend's father

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  • mollymae22
    10 years ago

    Well on instagram she is smoking weed, drinking, and just having a great time. She lies to her father about "working" constantly and becoming assistant manager but when verified she is not at work and is just a "clerk". No education, unskilled worker, and all he can do is say....

    Love you sweetie, so proud of you! Dumb begets dumb.... lol

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    You can't "make him realize..." anything. You are powerless over his thoughts, emotions and life decisions.

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    • mollymae22
      10 years ago

      Got it. Thanks! It's just he talks of her like she is a successful "college student" even though she dropped out of tech school. He talks about the money he has given her and then, party, drugs, etc. A year ago she friended me on Instagram so all of her party pics come to me. She probably doesn't even realize.

      I put 2+2 together and realized the pattern. That's all. She will screw up her life and I hope she doesn't take him with her. But, if she does, there is nothing I can do.

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Whatever you do don't give him any money.

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        • mollymae22
          10 years ago

          Been there, done that, been burned. I don't and I don't plan to.

          By the way, he gave his precious daughter $300 for tires... well, she bought the drug addict boyfriend a 50in flatscreen TV and $80 video game. Do you think my friend will react? Hell no. He has no power.

          I'm just laughing it off at this point.

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          • RoseIsabella
            10 years ago

            That was an awful thing to do with her father's money. She's probably a drug addict too or at the very least pathetically codependent. My advice for your friend would be if he wants to help out his daughter he should give her the material things she needs help with and no more money. If your friend chooses to take my advice and his daughter feels hurt or insulted then she can just go without.

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            • mollymae22
              10 years ago

              God forbid she goes without! Two cars, money for a condo which I talked him into holding because the boyfriend is a well known drug addict. My logic was "if you continue to provide for her, He will NEVER leave". But, my friend is lazy and gives into her pathetic pity parade.

              She will get hers, no doubt and as far as my friend, he will understand at some point down the road... hopefully.

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  • Ms.Caffinated
    10 years ago

    It sucks to say this but there is not much you can do. My mother was into meth and she would always ask my grandfather for money claming it was for me and my sisters but still leavimg us he with him. A father is a loving creature when they wanna be, My grandfather feared that if he didm't help her out she'd find other means of gettimg money and endimg up dead, hurt or with our lives in danger. She has stolen his stuff, threatened to take us away, and just been a horrible daughter but still he handed her money lile allowance even to abe 42.
    He is a loving father, your friend i mean. You can try to reason with him but thats his little girl, He wants to make sure she's eating. I can omly hope she vets her shit together before her lifes really fucked...

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